Comments on: Making Friends and Building Relationships – Part 1 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2007/09/19/making-friends-and-building-relationships-%e2%80%93-part-1/ Bryan Hutchinson's thoughts about ADD ADHD Attention Deficit Disorder and other stuff Sat, 11 Feb 2012 18:44:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Bryan http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2007/09/19/making-friends-and-building-relationships-%e2%80%93-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-344 Bryan Thu, 20 Sep 2007 04:30:12 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/2007/09/19/making-friends-and-building-relationships-%e2%80%93-part-1/#comment-344 Indeed, Rosalind, self acceptance and therefore, understanding is the most important! I agree. Stated that many times already and that will also be part of this series of articles. :) Indeed, Rosalind, self acceptance and therefore, understanding is the most important! I agree. Stated that many times already and that will also be part of this series of articles. :)

]]> By: rosalind power http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2007/09/19/making-friends-and-building-relationships-%e2%80%93-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-339 rosalind power Wed, 19 Sep 2007 22:55:16 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/2007/09/19/making-friends-and-building-relationships-%e2%80%93-part-1/#comment-339 Bryan the nature of the conscious mind is to criticise and judge,so dont take it personal but that is darn hard,if we can understand this then it moves us further on as people.Self acceptence is the key like i said before once we accept ourselves then we accept others,this is a process of self discovery and when we know who we are we no longer take what others think or say as personal as we can see whats us or not us.love your web site cool keep up the good work.blessings to you and joan.love rosxx Bryan the nature of the conscious mind is to criticise and judge,so dont take it personal but that is darn hard,if we can understand this then it moves us further on as people.Self acceptence is the key like i said before once we accept ourselves then we accept others,this is a process of self discovery and when we know who we are we no longer take what others think or say as personal as we can see whats us or not us.love your web site cool keep up the good work.blessings to you and joan.love rosxx

]]> By: Lisa http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2007/09/19/making-friends-and-building-relationships-%e2%80%93-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-336 Lisa Wed, 19 Sep 2007 14:41:45 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/2007/09/19/making-friends-and-building-relationships-%e2%80%93-part-1/#comment-336 I am in no way shy! But you are so right, I hate being around people who will have a opinion about what I'm doing or how I'm doing it. I CAN'T STAND THAT! Mostly because I'm already self conscious, the last thing I want is people noticing my faults. Even if the elephant in the living room is obvious, I don't want anyone to see it! So I try to hide it. But I can't, not really. Some people tell me, who gives a **** what other people think. Well... I do I guess. I worry about what other people think of me. And since I think people will judge me I try to keep them out, so they can't. (they do anyway I'm sure, so my efforts to control don't work anyway) Advice on how to makes friends? I have none at the moment. If you asked me ten or so years ago I still would of known, but not anymore. My skills are pretty well dull. Maybe in time, I will get up the gumption to change that. Again Bryan, you have brought up many thoughts to ponder. In spite of everything I think it all boils down to what we want. Even with ADD, all things are possible, if there is a strong desire. A very strong desire, or else it won't be worth it. That is what I have found, that I have to want something really bad to pursue it, even friendships. Apparently, as of late, I haven't wanted that bad enough to change. The thing is I know it's all up to me to want something enough, to change my thoughts and actions. I am in no way shy! But you are so right, I hate being around people who will have a opinion about what I’m doing or how I’m doing it. I CAN’T STAND THAT! Mostly because I’m already self conscious, the last thing I want is people noticing my faults. Even if the elephant in the living room is obvious, I don’t want anyone to see it! So I try to hide it. But I can’t, not really. Some people tell me, who gives a **** what other people think. Well… I do I guess. I worry about what other people think of me. And since I think people will judge me I try to keep them out, so they can’t. (they do anyway I’m sure, so my efforts to control don’t work anyway)

Advice on how to makes friends? I have none at the moment. If you asked me ten or so years ago I still would of known, but not anymore. My skills are pretty well dull. Maybe in time, I will get up the gumption to change that.

Again Bryan, you have brought up many thoughts to ponder. In spite of everything I think it all boils down to what we want. Even with ADD, all things are possible, if there is a strong desire. A very strong desire, or else it won’t be worth it. That is what I have found, that I have to want something really bad to pursue it, even friendships. Apparently, as of late, I haven’t wanted that bad enough to change. The thing is I know it’s all up to me to want something enough, to change my thoughts and actions.

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