The most confounding contradiction to ADD ADHD for parents, teachers, society and even the person with ADD ADHD can be summed up in one single solitary word “Interest”. When an Adder has interest in something they can show not only a spark of genius, but they can also be a true genius and, or innovator in wherever the interest is. That’s confounding because when an Adder shows this capability many interpret it to mean that the person can do anything and just chooses not to. Adders, especially the younger ones, have very little, if any control over what interests their minds. That’s a simple fact which is seemingly unacceptable to the majority of our population. The thinking is: if you can do it in one thing, then you should be able to do it in all things. I think there is a lot of truth here, think about it by looking at reactions to report cards of our youth today—we expect equal or at least very nearly equal grades for all classes. If there are major differences, then there is a problem and the child is to blame. He or she is not giving enough effort in the less than equal areas. It is considered by many to be a conscious choice, because, well, look at the better grades. That means he or she can do it! “Oh dread” A little more discipline or a little more punishment is needed, that should fix ‘em!
Punishment (physical) and discipline (non-Physical)? Wash, rinse and repeat! Punishment seems to work, but if anyone really pays attention to punishment, it is usually short lived and must be repeated – frequently with Adders! Why? Because the negative adrenaline rush provided by punishment is a stimulant and works on Adders for a very brief period. That’s why it is confounding when Adder’s repeat mistakes and must be punished over and over again. Punishment doesn’t work; it just creates resentment and withdrawal and yes, depression. However, certain discipline must be enforced in any society, even for Adders, it’s important though, to realize that it must be realistic and not to cure an incurable disability. Understanding and interactive participation is far more effective than any punishment and proper discipline can only be discovered through understanding the true traits of an individual.
For adults, it is even more complicated…
~Bryan
