This excerpt is a paragraph from my forthcoming book © “One Boy’s Struggle…” The excerpts I am posting are short paragraphs which I think will give you a good idea of what you will read and discover in my Memoir.
This particular paragraph mentions the Law of Attraction, which I consider very important for any Adder. Although I explain in detail within the book itself, it is important to note that the majority of people with ADD ADHD have difficulty forecasting the future or planning or ‘seeing’ what the results of their work will bring and is a major reason Adders have difficulty accomplishing most everything that does not have immediate results. The Law of Attraction has helped me significantly in this area and has become a very important tool I use daily and I believe, from my experiences, this can help anyone with or without ADD ADHD, but most assuredly those with ADD ADHD. I discovered the Law of Attraction from the book “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne. I think a lot of Adders will be very interested in how “The Secret” can help them in their lives. Reading about it and applying it are two different things, therefore I know a clarification from a person with ADD and how he applies the Law of Attraction in his life is very beneficial to those who can use it—we all can!
With what I have learned through therapy about the Law of Attraction and from the benefits of positive thinking, I have stopped relying on my anxiety and negative pressure as ways to focus on achieving my goals. As a child, worrying helped me stay focused on staying out of trouble. It seemed that whenever I relaxed and stopped worrying or forgot to worry and lapsed into distraction, I would invariably get in trouble for something. Later, as an adult I used my worry method to keep me sharp at work and at the pool table in order to succeed. The more risk I felt of failure, the more pressure I would put on myself to focus on the tasks at hand. Although my method worked for me, I have since learned through therapy that it is not an emotionally or physically healthy way to achieve success. I understand now why I would get frequent headaches, stomach cramps, and become completely emotionally exhausted trying to achieve my goals. Thinking more positively and understanding the Law of Attraction helps direct and enable me to focus more effectively in a less stressful way by first visualizing my desired goal and how I can accomplish it in my mind, and then working positively toward achieving it. By visualizing what I want to achieve first, my mind processes situations more thoughtfully and comprehensively. My ADD mind frequently wanders and I get distracted thinking about a multitude of different things that interest me. When I feel myself becoming distracted, I use deep breathing exercises that I learned from Tai Chi to bring my mind back to visualizing my goals. Visualizing what I want keeps my mind focused on the positive outcome of something in which I am keenly interested; achieving a desired goal. I have worried and put undue pressure on myself to be successful for so long that it had become a habit which I needed to break. Using a new, more positive approach to achieving success is one way I am able to slowly break that destructive habit. This new way of focusing is refreshing and gives me a unique sense of calm which I have rarely known.