Comments on: ADD ADHD Center of the Universe – Sex, Love and More! http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2007/12/10/add-adhd-center-of-the-universe-%e2%80%93-sex-love-and-more/ Bryan Hutchinson's thoughts about ADD ADHD Attention Deficit Disorder and other stuff Sat, 11 Feb 2012 18:44:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Elizabeth http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2007/12/10/add-adhd-center-of-the-universe-%e2%80%93-sex-love-and-more/comment-page-1/#comment-6056 Elizabeth Tue, 22 Jul 2008 02:04:43 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/2007/12/10/add-adhd-center-of-the-universe-%e2%80%93-sex-love-and-more/#comment-6056 I agree completely! And I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD. (Yet.) For me, it's about compassion. Really listening and watching for body language, and being present to the person (s) you are with. The entire world needs more of this! We are all to quick to say, What's in it for me? when we could be saying, what's in it for us? And of course, in pointing the finger, there are always four pointing back at me, myself and I. -EK I agree completely! And I haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD. (Yet.) For me, it’s about compassion. Really listening and watching for body language, and being present to the person (s) you are with. The entire world needs more of this! We are all to quick to say, What’s in it for me? when we could be saying, what’s in it for us? And of course, in pointing the finger, there are always four pointing back at me, myself and I.
-EK

]]> By: Matt http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2007/12/10/add-adhd-center-of-the-universe-%e2%80%93-sex-love-and-more/comment-page-1/#comment-1520 Matt Tue, 01 Jan 2008 03:24:42 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/2007/12/10/add-adhd-center-of-the-universe-%e2%80%93-sex-love-and-more/#comment-1520 This is really well-written and speaks to exactly my frustrations with myself. I don't want to be so self-centered, but I am. This is really well-written and speaks to exactly my frustrations with myself. I don’t want to be so self-centered, but I am.

]]> By: Gina Pera http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2007/12/10/add-adhd-center-of-the-universe-%e2%80%93-sex-love-and-more/comment-page-1/#comment-1429 Gina Pera Mon, 24 Dec 2007 05:02:07 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/2007/12/10/add-adhd-center-of-the-universe-%e2%80%93-sex-love-and-more/#comment-1429 Thanks Bryan. This is great. It's often hard for the partners of adults with ADHD to understand this "self-centered" aspect that often goes along with being distractible or having to focus so intensely on making it through the day with no major goofs or omissions that other people's needs don't always enter the equation. Of course, understanding is not excusing; you're right, for everyone's happiness, the behavior needs to change. But still, I think it helps both people with ADHD and their partners to hear your first-hand experience--and advice. cheers, Gina Thanks Bryan. This is great.

It’s often hard for the partners of adults with ADHD to understand this “self-centered” aspect that often goes along with being distractible or having to focus so intensely on making it through the day with no major goofs or omissions that other people’s needs don’t always enter the equation.

Of course, understanding is not excusing; you’re right, for everyone’s happiness, the behavior needs to change. But still, I think it helps both people with ADHD and their partners to hear your first-hand experience–and advice.

cheers,
Gina

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