Sometimes we get so caught up in our symptoms, the complications and the stigma of ADD and ADHD that we forget that we still have the power of choice. No, we cannot choose to rid ourselves of ADD or ADHD and we cannot simply make the choice to be cured. That’s not what I am talking about and I do not imply that. However, with that said, we have some choices we can make and making choices can be the defining factor in a lot of the situations we go through, how we treat others and how we react to others. ADD ADHD is not an excuse, it is a reason and it does not inhibit us from becoming better people or from contributing to relationships or to society in general.
Getting help is probably the most important choice we can make, a lot of the challenges we face do require a certain amount of help. Accepting help is another choice. Yep, two choices that sound like one, but both of great importance.
The choice to accept reality or accept denial, — that is another very important choice to make. What if your eye doctor told you that you need glasses and with them you will be able to read, but instead you refuse to wear glasses or put in contact lenses because you do not believe in such a thing as bad eye sight? Of course that’s ridiculous, but why is it so many people choose to believe ADD ADHD is not real? It is a choice. I can choose not to believe that ADD ADHD exists, but then I am stuck with not believing any of the assistance for ADD ADHD exist either.
There are a lot of choices we Adders can make, just because we have ADD or ADHD does not mean we are exempt from making choices. Do we choose to be a good partner, or do we choose to ignore issues confronting us? We can choose to get better, really, we can, in nearly all areas of concern, we can make a choice. And, we do not have to make the choices alone. Help is out there, advice is out there, counsel and books are out there, but first of all we have a choice to make.
Choice is our most powerful ally.
~Bryan