There’s going to be people who say you can’t, there’s going to be people who tell you there is no way, there are going to be people who try to hold you back, but the truth is—you can, there is a way and no matter what someone says or tries to make you believe, it really comes down to what you believe, what you think and what you want. Nobody has control over your mind and your future the way that you do!
I am here to tell you that there will be times that people make you feel bad, make you feel down and make you feel like nothing you do is worth anything. It can get to you and it got to me, but the great power within our minds has the ability to overcome naysayers, put-downers and those who are trying to make us feel as bad as they do.
The good news I discovered about naysayers is that when they come at you and they have you in your sights and they feel the aggressive need to work their negativity on you, well, then you are doing something right and it scares them. That’s right. It scares them to death. You know why? Because we are showing that there is a power greater than “I can’t” we are showing them that when there is a “will”, then there is a “way!” We are showing them that effort does pay off! Being positive and enthusiastic works miracles, but it isn’t always easy, we have to be strong, and we have to get up and brush ourselves off and continue, even when it seems all is not going to go well.
Misery loves company, failure wants friends and sadness wants you to be its closest friend so it can feel justified, – because you know what? The more you glow with smiles, the more spring that rises in your steps and the happier you get and the more successful you become, well, that shows others that negativity, criticism and defeatism can be overcome! Some have seemingly lost that will to put the effort forth, some have fallen into the void of negativity and some have given up. I know that very well, because I have been there. And like the fiery phoenix I rose out of the ashes of disparity and I worked and still work hard to overcome my struggles. Yes, I still say the wrong things from time to time, yes I still do the wrong things from time to time and yes, I do still make some wrong decisions, but over all I feel like today, I do more right for myself than I do wrong, even when others would like me to believe otherwise.
Yesterday I wrote a post, a negative post due to a harsh, negative email I received and it was the wrong thing to do. A person is having some struggles and those struggles have gotten the better of him for the moment, but I believe that no matter what struggles a person is in and how difficult things might be right now, there is a way to overcome them, a way to think positive and a way to see that there is more to who we are than what others would like us to believe.
My mother has always had some wonderful sayings as I grew up. They are clichés and I never really paid them attention (I have ADD you know), but when I think about them today I understand how right she was and still is. Clichés become clichés because they hold a lot of truth. Let me tell you what she frequently told me and I live by these sayings:
“If there is a will, there is a way!”
“If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
“Those who don’t, or won’t, – criticize instead.”
My mother has always believed in me, it didn’t matter how bad my grades were, it didn’t matter how much trouble I got into and it didn’t matter how much I ticked her off at times, her belief in me has always been there and it will always be there. She might not have known I had Attention Deficit Disorder while I was growing up (I still do), but she has always known I would be something special even when my 5th grade teacher put me in the corner with a clown hat on while the rest of the class held a big party. Ohhh, I am glad I wasn’t that teacher by the time she got done with him!
To the writer of that email yesterday: I know things have gotten you down and I know it seems like there is no way to overcome the adversities in your life due to Attention Deficit Disorder and maybe other things . I have been there and yesterday I felt your hurt and I took it to heart in the wrong manner, because I am not mistake free and negativity can still seep through the cracks, but that was only temporary. Whatever you are going through and no matter how much ADD seems to be keeping you down, please know that I have been in the gutter of hopelessness and the confusion of not knowing which way to turn. I have been on the brink of death and I have cried so hard on the floor of my bedroom that my mother had to pick me up off of the floor and make me see that tomorrow is another day and tomorrow I can do better and even if I don’t do better the next day, well, then I have a day after that and a day after that one to give it my all and do whatever I can within my heart and my soul to be better, to work towards what I want in life. Tomorrow is another day and with it comes new opportunities and a chance to see things differently and that’s what I try to show through my writing and that’s what I want for others to know and hopefully believe that positivity over time can overcome even the ADD mind and bring about success and happiness.
Please know that negative thoughts and negative beliefs can be a temporary thing and we have a greater power within all of us to overcome them and be positive, successful and happy. Setbacks will come, but setbacks will also go. Don’t join the negativity, join the positivity. Don’t join the “I can’t’s”, join the “I cans”. Choose positive company and let the positive feelings and beliefs and thoughts be a part of our nature. When we join negative company their thoughts, beliefs and feelings are just as contagious, so we have to choose which group we are a part of carefully. Even with ADD, we can find ways to overcome, we can find ways to rise to the top and we can find ways to smile and be happy.
To the writer of yesterday’s email concerning that ADDers can’t be positive thinkers: I deleted your email, but if you write me again I will personally send you a copy of my book and you can read what I have been through, how negative I thought and how I overcame my inner and outer struggles. After all, that’s why I wrote it and the reason I write my Blog, to help others and especially to let others know that I have been there and that there is a way—
“When there is a will, there is a way!”
The very best wishes from me to you, all of you!