Have you ever heard of the Shame Game? It is an easy game, I used to play it a lot and I won a lot. Actually the Shame Game is a very difficult game to lose and is a very easy game to win.
The Shame Game only requires a few things and if you can master those things, you will win:
Negative Self Talk
Say, Think, Express and have others join you in Saying, Thinking and Expressing anything and everything negative about who you are and the nature of who you are.
Basically anything self critical and negative helps you gain points in the Shame Game.
Like I said, the Shame Game is an easy game to play, but winning it does not bring happiness or achievement. It is one of the few games that when you play to win, you will ultimately lose.
Those of us with ADHD often live in the Shame Game. We are some of the best players and have the absolute supreme skills at pointing out our faults and negative traits. Few people can do it better than we can. The problem with playing the Shame Game, even as justified as we can create it, is that it automatically compounds our negative assumptions and beliefs. ADHD can be debilitating and yet, there are many ways to cope and overcome many ADHD traits. However, the thoughts we live with day in and day out are not created by ADHD, they are created by ourselves, our belief system from our personal experiences.
PTSD, Depression and Low Self Esteem are common in those with ADHD, but it is important to remember that even though those can be co-morbid, they are still separate issues. Each issue must be treated accordingly.
Play the Shame Game, justify it accordingly, WIN and I guarantee you have really lost.
My suggestion to anyone playing the Shame Game, you might be interested in the first book that got me started on the road to recovery and playing the Positive Game:
The Power of Positive Thinking
By: Norman Vincent Peale