Comments on: Finding your Soulmate – The Magic and Risk of http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/06/12/finding-your-soulmate-the-magic-and-risk-of/ Bryan Hutchinson's thoughts about ADD ADHD Attention Deficit Disorder and other stuff Sat, 11 Feb 2012 18:44:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Bryan http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/06/12/finding-your-soulmate-the-magic-and-risk-of/comment-page-1/#comment-24474 Bryan Thu, 06 Aug 2009 09:10:15 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=1830#comment-24474 I think you are right on about that, self-love is the utmost form of love and only then can one truly accept and, give, love. Ah, the devil child... aren’t we all? Hopefully, the information here and other people sharing their experiences will help demonstrate that we are not little evil creatures with horns on our heads! Indeed, we have a lot to offer :) Bryan I think you are right on about that, self-love is the utmost form of love and only then can one truly accept and, give, love.

Ah, the devil child… aren’t we all? Hopefully, the information here and other people sharing their experiences will help demonstrate that we are not little evil creatures with horns on our heads!

Indeed, we have a lot to offer :)

Bryan

]]> By: Lisa http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/06/12/finding-your-soulmate-the-magic-and-risk-of/comment-page-1/#comment-24466 Lisa Thu, 06 Aug 2009 00:23:32 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=1830#comment-24466 Great article, but love in itself is not a concept I can graps. I never learned what love is or even how if feels much cause I shut myself off from very unsupportive/not nurture (hugs what are they) family and a society that doesn't understand Now at 44 its all about learning self-love, cause there is a big part of me that still thinks I am the devil child Great article, but love in itself is not a concept I can graps. I never learned what love is or even how if feels much cause I shut myself off from very unsupportive/not nurture (hugs what are they) family and a society that doesn’t understand

Now at 44 its all about learning self-love, cause there is a big part of me that still thinks I am the devil child

]]> By: Leena http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/06/12/finding-your-soulmate-the-magic-and-risk-of/comment-page-1/#comment-24388 Leena Mon, 03 Aug 2009 07:10:44 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=1830#comment-24388 What a well-written article! I absolutely agree that we need to love ourselves first, otherwise we will never be able to love others or even find happiness. What a well-written article! I absolutely agree that we need to love ourselves first, otherwise we will never be able to love others or even find happiness.

]]> By: Michael http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/06/12/finding-your-soulmate-the-magic-and-risk-of/comment-page-1/#comment-22640 Michael Tue, 23 Jun 2009 13:51:32 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=1830#comment-22640 While the ideal of a 'soulmate' is appealing - MOST if not ALL of the love stories in book and movie form hold this axiom - we live and deal in reality. There are literally millions of people walking around wounded thanks to this concept - either from a partner that briefly felt the annoying pangs of 'I'm missing something in life' to surviving a partner that has left for their own narcissistic journey to find "The One'. (I was one of those folk) Rather than betting the house on an unrealistic whim, I would much rather learn to put on different glasses! Instead of wearing the judgmental glases that nitpics my partner's every shortcoming and glorified the 'perfection' of the 'ideal', I instead wear the only semi-rose-colored glasses of 'appreciation' for my mate (This is a brand new relationship and I am far more optomistic than ever before!). Part of this is simply using the wisdom we gain through growing up; parts of it have already been written from eons past (I Corinthians 13) - love is patient, love is kind, love is not boastful...love believes all things, love endures all things, love hopes all things. I have serious doubts that God honors the relationship of those that broke apart a marriage for the selfish pursuit of a 'soulmate'; rather we CAN WORK to turn the present partner (which is mostly done in our own minds anyhow!) into that partner we yearn for so desperately. While the ideal of a ‘soulmate’ is appealing – MOST if not ALL of the love stories in book and movie form hold this axiom – we live and deal in reality. There are literally millions of people walking around wounded thanks to this concept – either from a partner that briefly felt the annoying pangs of ‘I’m missing something in life’ to surviving a partner that has left for their own narcissistic journey to find “The One’. (I was one of those folk)
Rather than betting the house on an unrealistic whim, I would much rather learn to put on different glasses! Instead of wearing the judgmental glases that nitpics my partner’s every shortcoming and glorified the ‘perfection’ of the ‘ideal’, I instead wear the only semi-rose-colored glasses of ‘appreciation’ for my mate (This is a brand new relationship and I am far more optomistic than ever before!). Part of this is simply using the wisdom we gain through growing up; parts of it have already been written from eons past (I Corinthians 13) – love is patient, love is kind, love is not boastful…love believes all things, love endures all things, love hopes all things.
I have serious doubts that God honors the relationship of those that broke apart a marriage for the selfish pursuit of a ‘soulmate’; rather we CAN WORK to turn the present partner (which is mostly done in our own minds anyhow!) into that partner we yearn for so desperately.

]]> By: janne w http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/06/12/finding-your-soulmate-the-magic-and-risk-of/comment-page-1/#comment-22367 janne w Wed, 17 Jun 2009 21:27:27 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=1830#comment-22367 yes. i concur though so-i know that relationship takes commitment to obligate oneself to: putting their best, most safest self that references health, safety, boundaries and edges-practiced of so well that the field that a person gives off-is reflected of these mentioned of-as a vibrative Key to being attractive-and attracting "the one." the gift i believe that one who is with ADD/ADHD, managing themselves well with it about theirselves is-these makeups for their lives to thrivably work out well-are the crutial foundation to help them gain authencity that has them truly heal and adulterate self, and his/ her identity meaningful and mattering. TBC janne w yes. i concur

though so-i know that relationship takes commitment to obligate oneself to: putting their
best, most safest self that references health, safety, boundaries and edges-practiced of so
well that the field that a person gives off-is
reflected of these mentioned of-as a vibrative Key to being attractive-and attracting “the
one.” the gift i believe that one who is with ADD/ADHD, managing themselves well with
it about theirselves is-these makeups for their
lives to thrivably work out well-are the crutial
foundation to help them gain authencity that
has them truly heal and adulterate self, and his/
her identity meaningful and mattering.
TBC
janne w

]]> By: Tatiana http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/06/12/finding-your-soulmate-the-magic-and-risk-of/comment-page-1/#comment-22222 Tatiana Sun, 14 Jun 2009 21:11:34 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=1830#comment-22222 Wounderful comments;however, there is the believe that soulmates is just between man and woman. Soulmates is an spiritual experience that go beyond human rationalize Wounderful comments;however, there is the believe that soulmates is just between man and woman. Soulmates is an spiritual experience that go beyond human rationalize

]]> By: Bryan http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/06/12/finding-your-soulmate-the-magic-and-risk-of/comment-page-1/#comment-22199 Bryan Sun, 14 Jun 2009 08:16:40 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=1830#comment-22199 Excellent comments everyone! I tend to agree that searching for the ‘perfect’ person is practically futile. To expect anyone to be perfect is the ultimate act of unfairness. However, I don’t know if a soulmate is perfection incarnate as a partner or human being. I think when we search for perfection we are dooming ourselves from experiencing love, friendship and compassion. When we love our self and are open to imperfections as part of human nature I think we have a greater opportunity to find sustaining love, the lasting kind. Bryan PS: I have always been a romantic at heart, so I enjoy this topic and the varying thoughts, feelings and opinions :) Excellent comments everyone! I tend to agree that searching for the ‘perfect’ person is practically futile. To expect anyone to be perfect is the ultimate act of unfairness. However, I don’t know if a soulmate is perfection incarnate as a partner or human being. I think when we search for perfection we are dooming ourselves from experiencing love, friendship and compassion. When we love our self and are open to imperfections as part of human nature I think we have a greater opportunity to find sustaining love, the lasting kind.

Bryan
PS: I have always been a romantic at heart, so I enjoy this topic and the varying thoughts, feelings and opinions :)

]]> By: MontanaShepherdess http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/06/12/finding-your-soulmate-the-magic-and-risk-of/comment-page-1/#comment-22188 MontanaShepherdess Sun, 14 Jun 2009 02:30:24 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=1830#comment-22188 Finding one’s soulmate is an alluring proposition, but to me, a misguided one. I believe it is important to seek self - understanding, but in relationship to a Higher power (God, Yeshua) . We could... be comfortable with who we are and love our self from within, but miss an invitation in our universe for a relationship of eternal joy. I don't need external assurance -from some mystic sign or some quantitative personality test approved by the APA (or the Mistakes of living, Inc.) I believe that if I am right with God, I will experience being truly loved. And if another is right with God, then I may experience that true love with someone else, or give the same love in return, to my earthly brothers and sisters. Finding one’s soulmate is an alluring proposition, but to me, a misguided one. I believe it is important to seek self – understanding, but in relationship to a Higher power (God, Yeshua) . We could… be comfortable with who we are and love our self from within, but miss an invitation in our universe for a relationship of eternal joy. I don’t need external assurance -from some mystic sign or some quantitative personality test approved by the APA (or the Mistakes of living, Inc.) I believe that if I am right with God, I will experience being truly loved. And if another is right with God, then I may experience that true love with someone else, or give the same love in return, to my earthly brothers and sisters.

]]> By: Steve Soucy http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/06/12/finding-your-soulmate-the-magic-and-risk-of/comment-page-1/#comment-22168 Steve Soucy Sat, 13 Jun 2009 16:12:14 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=1830#comment-22168 I don't believe in soulmates. ... I honestly believe romanticizing the concept of soulmate hinders personal growth and potential for committing to a relationship. People have a tendency to sit back and wait on the fence about a relationship's possibilities, instead of doing the things that create THE relationship of their dreams. A Soulmates isn't something we find by accident or attracting. A soulmate is state of being that is a result of putting the effort into CREATING the relationship and life of our dreams. But I sure love everybody! Steve I don’t believe in soulmates. …

I honestly believe romanticizing the concept of soulmate hinders personal growth and potential for committing to a relationship. People have a tendency to sit back and wait on the fence about a relationship’s possibilities, instead of doing the things that create THE relationship of their dreams. A Soulmates isn’t something we find by accident or attracting. A soulmate is state of being that is a result of putting the effort into CREATING the relationship and life of our dreams.

But I sure love everybody!

Steve

]]> By: Priyashmita Guha http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/06/12/finding-your-soulmate-the-magic-and-risk-of/comment-page-1/#comment-22164 Priyashmita Guha Sat, 13 Jun 2009 14:58:49 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=1830#comment-22164 When you really want something to happen, the whole universe conspires so that your wish comes true.. and this includes finding your soulmate. When you really want something to happen, the whole universe conspires so that your wish comes true..

and this includes finding your soulmate.

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