Comments on: Are ADDers the New Vampires? http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/12/20/are-adders-the-new-vampires/ Bryan Hutchinson's thoughts about ADD ADHD Attention Deficit Disorder and other stuff Sat, 11 Feb 2012 18:44:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Cookie http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/12/20/are-adders-the-new-vampires/comment-page-1/#comment-36316 Cookie Mon, 10 May 2010 23:45:55 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3017#comment-36316 When I'm on this website I often go back and reread a blog that you've written Bryan and I get what your talking about the 2nd time around. I remember reading this post in December and not really getting it; but here it is months later and I get it. I have to agree with you; why must it be me who has to constantly change? Why can't anybody else ever acknowledge "You're ok, I understand your reaction, you're perfectly fine the way you are"? Its exhausting to try to constantly not get sucked into shameful or disgraceful situations that used to be the way of life. Sometimes it makes me want to take the 'easy' way out and succumb to the safety of ignorance inside of the ADD. When I’m on this website I often go back and reread a blog that you’ve written Bryan and I get what your talking about the 2nd time around. I remember reading this post in December and not really getting it; but here it is months later and I get it.

I have to agree with you; why must it be me who has to constantly change? Why can’t anybody else ever acknowledge “You’re ok, I understand your reaction, you’re perfectly fine the way you are”? Its exhausting to try to constantly not get sucked into shameful or disgraceful situations that used to be the way of life. Sometimes it makes me want to take the ‘easy’ way out and succumb to the safety of ignorance inside of the ADD.

]]> By: Scott Hutson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/12/20/are-adders-the-new-vampires/comment-page-1/#comment-32837 Scott Hutson Wed, 17 Feb 2010 01:55:44 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3017#comment-32837 Thank You Bryan, Knowing why and finding the key. That's the way I look at this. And one of the reasons I am here. This will be a good day for me! Scott Thank You Bryan,

Knowing why and finding the key. That’s the way I look at this. And one of the reasons I am here. This will be a good day for me!

Scott

]]> By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/12/20/are-adders-the-new-vampires/comment-page-1/#comment-32814 Bryan Hutchinson Tue, 16 Feb 2010 08:36:27 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3017#comment-32814 Hi Scott, the important thing is that recognizing the way we behaved and knowing why is the key to unlocking and creating a better future. The past is behind us, we can learn from it and thus become better aware. We might not be able to do everything 'the right' way, but any small improvement can have a major effect on our outlook and with each little step, we realize the past isn't so bad after all if we use the memories to our advantage for the future. That's what I tend to believe. ~Bryan Hi Scott, the important thing is that recognizing the way we behaved and knowing why is the key to unlocking and creating a better future. The past is behind us, we can learn from it and thus become better aware. We might not be able to do everything ‘the right’ way, but any small improvement can have a major effect on our outlook and with each little step, we realize the past isn’t so bad after all if we use the memories to our advantage for the future. That’s what I tend to believe.

~Bryan

]]> By: Scott Hutson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/12/20/are-adders-the-new-vampires/comment-page-1/#comment-32803 Scott Hutson Tue, 16 Feb 2010 00:50:18 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3017#comment-32803 I thought about this post the other day(why? I don't know). But it was a moment of guilt I felt about the way I have " Sucked the Love" out of some people, and then walked away, without considering the fact that I may have hurt them,and missed the chance of feeling true love. Only feeding my need for stimulation for those moments. I will never know what damage,if any, I may have done. I thought about this post the other day(why? I don’t know). But it was a moment of guilt I felt about the way I have ” Sucked the Love” out of some people, and then walked away, without considering the fact that I may have hurt them,and missed the chance of feeling true love.

Only feeding my need for stimulation for those moments. I will never know what damage,if any, I may have done.

]]> By: Jackson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/12/20/are-adders-the-new-vampires/comment-page-1/#comment-30355 Jackson Wed, 23 Dec 2009 16:08:51 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3017#comment-30355 Dude! Spot on! The vampire // ADHD'er connection works in so many ways. You write about things in ways 'v never seen before! Can't wait to read this book xx100! Dude! Spot on! The vampire // ADHD’er connection works in so many ways. You write about things in ways ‘v never seen before! Can’t wait to read this book xx100!

]]> By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/12/20/are-adders-the-new-vampires/comment-page-1/#comment-30317 Bryan Hutchinson Tue, 22 Dec 2009 08:49:20 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3017#comment-30317 Hi Mark, no apologies, please, I appreciate that you got my meaning within this analogy. The older metaphor of being an energy drainer when describing vampires is still strong, but not the one I was intending to write about. I am leaning more towards 'The Vampire Lestat', 'Twilight' and 'Underworld' type, where Vampires have become something more to do with Sex appeal and danger. Thanks for your observations and input! Bryan Hi Mark, no apologies, please, I appreciate that you got my meaning within this analogy. The older metaphor of being an energy drainer when describing vampires is still strong, but not the one I was intending to write about. I am leaning more towards ‘The Vampire Lestat’, ‘Twilight’ and ‘Underworld’ type, where Vampires have become something more to do with Sex appeal and danger.

Thanks for your observations and input!

Bryan

]]> By: mark http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/12/20/are-adders-the-new-vampires/comment-page-1/#comment-30294 mark Mon, 21 Dec 2009 18:38:57 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3017#comment-30294 Bryan, I missed your comment about Lestat. My apologies for repeating your observation about vampires with a conscience. That's what I'm aiming for. .-= mark´s last blog ..<a href="http://markheath.wordpress.com/2009/12/21/click-on-about/">Click on ABOUT</a> =-. Bryan, I missed your comment about Lestat. My apologies for repeating your observation about vampires with a conscience. That’s what I’m aiming for.
.-= mark´s last blog ..Click on ABOUT =-.

]]> By: mark http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/12/20/are-adders-the-new-vampires/comment-page-1/#comment-30293 mark Mon, 21 Dec 2009 18:37:12 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3017#comment-30293 In defense of vampires, not all of them choose to suck blood for the sake of causing harm. They do it to stay alive -- or undead -- as intentionally evil as a mosquito. I like the idea that ADD has a vampiric quality. I do harm, but it's not intended. I'm only getting along, doing what my brain tells me to do, filling my stomach. Of course, there are good vampires, like Angel from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. He was inclined to treat humans like sippy cups, but for the sake of his human relationships, he didn't. Usually. We all have bad days. As a fan of the show, I think my role model should be a vampire with a soul. .-= mark´s last blog ..<a href="http://markheath.wordpress.com/2009/12/21/click-on-about/">Click on ABOUT</a> =-. In defense of vampires, not all of them choose to suck blood for the sake of causing harm. They do it to stay alive — or undead — as intentionally evil as a mosquito.

I like the idea that ADD has a vampiric quality. I do harm, but it’s not intended. I’m only getting along, doing what my brain tells me to do, filling my stomach.

Of course, there are good vampires, like Angel from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. He was inclined to treat humans like sippy cups, but for the sake of his human relationships, he didn’t. Usually. We all have bad days.

As a fan of the show, I think my role model should be a vampire with a soul.
.-= mark´s last blog ..Click on ABOUT =-.

]]> By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/12/20/are-adders-the-new-vampires/comment-page-1/#comment-30282 Bryan Hutchinson Mon, 21 Dec 2009 11:22:02 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3017#comment-30282 Very, very good points Dana! I can't help but agree to just about everything you wrote. However, on the Vampire side, if you pick up any of the latest Vampire Novels, especially by the wonderful and ever splendid Anna Rice - 'The Vampire Lestat', of course, is anything but intentionally dangerous. However, he must live by his nature although he fights against it all the while and yet more often than not, he fails. Interestingly, Lestat’s nature to fight against himself and be more and better than what Vampires should be is when he is hunted by his own kind… if you enjoy good fantasy books, of the pop-corn, romance kind, you’ll enjoy the Vampire Lestat! Very, very good points Dana! I can’t help but agree to just about everything you wrote.

However, on the Vampire side, if you pick up any of the latest Vampire Novels, especially by the wonderful and ever splendid Anna Rice – ‘The Vampire Lestat’, of course, is anything but intentionally dangerous. However, he must live by his nature although he fights against it all the while and yet more often than not, he fails. Interestingly, Lestat’s nature to fight against himself and be more and better than what Vampires should be is when he is hunted by his own kind… if you enjoy good fantasy books, of the pop-corn, romance kind, you’ll enjoy the Vampire Lestat!

]]> By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2009/12/20/are-adders-the-new-vampires/comment-page-1/#comment-30281 Bryan Hutchinson Mon, 21 Dec 2009 11:13:41 +0000 http://adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3017#comment-30281 Unfortunately, I think it is all too common. Shame, I think is a natural occurrence in most of us with ADHD, especially those of us diagnosed late. It brings with it a host of ‘less than’ emotions and holds us back at key times just when we think we can and then we don’t. I have a chapter specifically about shame and how I have dealt with it, in love, intimacy and day to day life. Thanks for your comments, it’s always nice when someone notices the intent of my writing so clearly :) Unfortunately, I think it is all too common. Shame, I think is a natural occurrence in most of us with ADHD, especially those of us diagnosed late. It brings with it a host of ‘less than’ emotions and holds us back at key times just when we think we can and then we don’t. I have a chapter specifically about shame and how I have dealt with it, in love, intimacy and day to day life.

Thanks for your comments, it’s always nice when someone notices the intent of my writing so clearly :)

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