Motivational and inspirational writer, Bryan Hutchinson is the author of several books about life with ADHD including the highly acclaimed, best selling "One Boy′s Struggle: A Memoir" and the author of the hilarious eBook that went viral "10 Things I Hate about ADHD"

5 Important Reasons to Focus on What Could Go Right (even if you have ADHD!)

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The mind seeks to create what it constantly focuses on.

1) When focusing on what could go right we look for solutions, opinions, ideas, tools and even take lessons to create the outcome we desire.

Alternatively, by focusing on what could go wrong we avoid those things because it’s going to go wrong anyway.

2) When focusing on what could go right we notice all the little things that will help us. The tiniest steps forward are viewed as progress.

By focusing on what could go wrong any step forward is likely to be disregarded as never enough.

3) Focusing on what could go right stimulates and sustains your inspiration, motivation and enthusiasm.

Why would you need those if it’s going to go wrong?

4) Focusing on what could go right creates a “can do” mentality.

Focusing on what can go wrong creates a “can’t do” mentality.

5) Our focus attracts certain types of people. By focusing on what could go right or wrong, whichever you choose, you will attract the type of people who will help you.

Do you want people to help you achieve or help you stay stuck?

Make your life worth it! 

Think Positively!

It is very easy to focus on what could go wrong. The solution is to purposely focus on what could go right.

This change in mindset seems simple enough, but the power goes beyond mere words and creates reality.

As you improve your mindset beware of those who only focus on what they can’t do, who are always rejecting what is possible. They excuse themselves from the effort it takes to think positively about themselves, much less what could go right.

Stay away from those people. You can’t change them, but they might change you.

Be yourself, focus on what you want and know that when there is a will there is a way! (Click Here to tweet that.)

Think of a time when you focused on what could go right and solutions began to present themselves. Share in the comments.

Bryan

Make Your Life Worth It! Think Positively! Is the title of a new book I am writing. If you’d like to be updated about it subscribe or join the ADDer World Social Network.

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Glen Hogard October 8, 2012 at 2:25 pm

I posted this by your FaceBook comment: Maharishi quote: “That which you focus your attention on, grows in your awareness.” The modern “positive psychology movement benefits from this phenomenon.

When coaching parents of students or speaking, I remind parents and loved ones to make sure, when dealing with an ADHD person in their life, to “catch them doing something right every day.”

So often families and others interacting with ADDers only speak up when they notice a “mistake” but often fail to remark when something is completed successfully as if it’s an “assumption” that everything is to be done “right” so they “make us “wrong” when mistakes are made or projects are incomplete. It’s as if normative brained people never make mistakes or have incomplete projects.

If you notice you’re living in a world full of nothing but criticism, it might be healthy to consider teaching those around you to notice when you do well and speak about it or change your friends, if possible. Unfortunately for children, their options are limited and sometimes the damage is done before they get out of grade school.

I sometime joke I thought my name was “Sit Down and Shut Up!” until I was seven.

Bryan Hutchinson October 8, 2012 at 5:09 pm

I love that quote, Glen. I’ll likely use it when I post my next collection of quotes.

I agree, too often people are quick to point out what is wrong and rarely notice when you do something right. Correction is important, especially if we learn from it, but it is also nice to know when we’ve done ‘good’! I also like your use of the word ‘normative’.

Thanks, Glen!
Bryan

Leslie Rouder October 9, 2012 at 12:54 pm

I so agree that our thoughts create energy states. It’s much easier to achieve and thrive when our focus and thoughts are positive and enthusiastic, rather than negative and doubting. But in addition to positive thinking, it’s actually creating the mood states that allow us to transcend our (percieved) reality to how we want it to look and feel. It’s how Tony Robbin’s gets thousands of ordinary participants to walk on fire and ultimately achieve their goals.

Thanks, Bryan for a great post !
Leslie

Bryan Hutchinson October 9, 2012 at 9:42 pm

Thank you, Leslie. Some say that I walk on fire with some of the words I write! I agree, what we focus on helps create our mood states. I’ve always been a fan of Tony’s btw.

Scott October 9, 2012 at 8:30 pm

This reminded me of the quote: “Who says worry doesn’t help? None of the things I worry about ever happen!” Funny business aside, something that has been working for me lately has been coming up with a small aspiration for the next day. Each evening I write in my journal about how that day’s aspiration went and think about what I want for tomorrow and come up with an aspiration for the next day. I’ve been trying to make them easily attainable, so I can succeed, and clear, like getting up by a certain time or doing a specific thing, so it is clear that I actually did it. What has surprised me is that even when I don’t accomplish my aspiration, it tends to bleed over into the rest of my life and happen spontaneously on another day. I’m finding the process is snowballing. Once difficult aspirations are entering my life closer to the level of habits. It seems like that tiny step, especially an easy step, each day is having a cumulative effect.
All the best,
Scott

Bryan Hutchinson October 9, 2012 at 9:45 pm

Excellent point, Scott! Too often we worry about things that will never happen. Lots of wasted time and energy. And that’s coming from someone who has spent way too much of his life in worry mode.

Speaking of journaling about aspirations, if you have a chance read my free eBook “How To Be Happy Every Day” I write about something very close to what you are talking about. I love the concept.

The Meaning of Me October 16, 2012 at 3:24 am

I have SO missed your blog posts. No idea when or how I stopped checking in daily, but life gets in the way sometimes.

Love the post here…have to come back later to catch up on others I’ve missed or else I will be up all night. That would be a bad idea for me.

:)

Bryan Hutchinson October 16, 2012 at 3:42 pm

Thanks for stopping by, TMOM! No worries, enjoy at your own pace.
:)

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