The reception of my memoir One Boy’s Struggle by people with ADHD and without ADHD alike, and professionals, has been phenomenal.

As most anyone knows, who has been reading my blog, you know I did not originally intend to publish. It all started as a therapeutic effort on my part to get my thoughts and experiences out of my head and on paper, something I could read back to myself and make sense of it all. Well, while I was making sense of my life I started to include all the things I believed would have helped me had it been known that I had ADD (ADHD), and while I did that, it was then that I decided, or rather, it came to me that I needed to share my life with you. It was not an easy decision, but I know it was the right decision. 

In the last year or so, many people have written me asking for advice on writing their story. They ask me about the steps I took etc. However, I cannot answer those questions in the way some expected. The reality is that I just wrote and I wrote and I wrote some more. I didn’t follow any procedure or have any preconceived ideas that I was writing a book.

So my advice to anyone who would like to ask that type of question of me, here are my answers:

1. Just write, take notes in the margins and keep writing.
2. Be honest, as honest as possible, even when you reveal something scary, embarrassing or something that makes you feel ashamed, keep writing, no, don’t stop.
3. Be relentless and let yourself be remarkable. What I mean by this is what I just wrote in #2, be honest with yourself enough to dig deeper into your own emotions. If the situation makes you cry, then let the tears fall on the keyboard, but whatever you do don’t stop writing to wipe them away. Keep going and you will share those feelings beyond any expectations. I cried a lot while writing One Boy’s Struggle, especially any time I got into the details about me and my father, because, above all things, no matter what, my love for my father is incredibly painful for me. He was a good man with a very confusing child. Yes, he was a good man and I do love him dearly, but I didn’t take away from the reality I lived through. So again, be honest about your experiences. The hurt is real, I know, but that’s the only way to release.
4. Write from your heart because that is where the story is. That’s what I truly believe. I sincerely believed had I started writing to share and publish my memoirs as a book I would have never gotten past the first few pages. So that’s my next tip:
5. Don’t think about being published or sharing your story. There’s too much to think about when you write from that perspective, unless you are an established professional writer, which by the way, I am clearly not. Stephanie Meyer, the author of Twilight, had never considered being a writer before she wrote her first book. The story came to her in a dream and she felt compelled to write and that’s what she did, with no formula – you know where that got her.
6. Be sure to keep a notebook in every room of your home and in your car. But, pull over if you start to write in your car!
7. Stay grounded and always, above all else, write for yourself as you feel it, as you want to express it, do not consider whether it makes sense to anyone else or not. There’s always time to go back and make it clearer for others, if necessary.
8. When I first started writing my memoirs I had some difficulty remembering things I had not thought about in years, but if this happens to you just write what you can remember and you will be surprised how memories start to surface. You may soon be going to bed remembering days gone by and the people you met and left along the way. That can be a very good thing, but honestly, it can also be somewhat painful, especially when some of your mistakes become clearer (we all make mistakes!), the things you said you wouldn’t want anyone to say to anyone today. As I said before, when the tears come, keep on writing. Don’t worry, I am sure you will also find nuggets of joy and happiness too, things you did do right that you didn’t give yourself credit for or, things that seemed to be wrong, but had it not happened something else would have been missed later. Life is like that, just write it down and sort it out later. 
9. Interviews: It’s up to you if you want to interview people from your past or just play it by memory. If you decide to do any interviews just remember that no one’s memory of you is going to be perfect. Some folks might not even remember things that you remember, because their focus was elsewhere or they have long since forgotten. People in general pay the most attention to themselves and how situations and events affect them. That’s absolutely normal, we love to think we are the center of attention, but in reality each person is their very own center of the universe, most especially in the formative years.
10. Each person is different; my approach to writing about my life is from an emotionally expressive angle.  Your way may be different, it might be more analytical, and that’s okay, your way is the right way for you. This list is what works for me and since the questions have been asked of me time and again, I thought it would be helpful to some for me to share them.

That’s what I’ve got in the way of tips for writing your memoirs. I think if you’re writing a memoir, something so personal, it is nearly impossible to follow any specific type of step by step program without it becoming somewhat mechanical. Sometimes, it is best to just let it flow, to let it pour out of you, revealing those emotions which allow readers to connect with you and what you may have gone through.

Here’s an example of what I mean, and I don’t know if this is a fair example: I read Michael Phelps memoir No Limits and enjoyed it to a degree, but I felt absolutely no emotional connection to it, positive, negative, in-between or at all. That’s not to say it is not a good memoir (it is a very good book), only that it is not one I could relate to on any level – if I had felt something perhaps then I would have found something to relate to. When there is a lack of emotion and a memoir is so organized, it becomes more like an historical archive. At least, that’s what I felt, or better said, didn’t feel. I hope that doesn’t come across the wrong way.(?)

In all due fairness to Mr. Phelps, he did not fully write his memoir, it was co-authored by Alan Abrahamson and the type of book they wrote was most likely their intention. Still, I did enjoy No Limits and it was a worthy read for me. That’s important to understand too, if you start out with the intention to write something in a specific way, there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just going to be different than what it would be if you write a memoir without specific intentions. That may seem like a no brainer, but hey, let me put it out there again just in case.

If you have written a memoir, please feel free to share your tips on writing too.

Okay, now I would like to ask for your help if you are willing: 

I have come to the decision that it is time to find an agent for my books, especially “One Boy’s Struggle: A memoir – Surviving Life with Undiagnosed ADD”. I need, or rather, want an agent to help me get my books published in a way that I can get them into book stores. I published my books through Infinity Publishing, which has been great, but that only helps with getting my books to you via the web. If I am to get One Boy’s Struggle into book stores, to reach as many people as possible, I need an agent. Personally, I would like to have my book read by anyone and everyone with or without ADHD!

I want to make a difference.

Who can help me do that?

Who is willing to help me?

You can!

If you know a professional literary agent with extensive experience and success, please pass this request on for me. However, if you do not know an agent, you can still help by sharing this post, simply email it, tweet it or use one of the various links below. Don’t be shy. Everyone makes a difference, that’s the brilliance of the internet! Of course, if you are an agent, please feel free to contact me.

You can read and pass on the reviews of One Boy’s Struggle here and download here.

– A special thank you to Mindy, of fullcircle-adminservices - Mindy and her team have gone way out of their way to help me get the word out about my books!

By the way, if you are Oprah or Ellen DeGeneres, well, hey, by all means, you can help too! 

And no, I do not believe (or maybe I do and simply am not saying) that simply mentioning their names in a blog post will help them notice me or that I should be noticed by them at all, I am just saying, hey, they can help too, if they want or are so inclined. I mean, why not? Yes, you can start a petition – I will sign it. ‘hi!’

- If Ellen can get on the cover of O Magazine, then anything can happen… right?!?

Have a wonderful, delightful day and THANK YOU!

~Bryan

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Cixous39, if you happen to read this: Thank you! Seems we have helped each other. I hope you don’t mind that I copied your review of One Boy’s Struggle: A Memoir here:

What makes this book special? On a personal level, my Mom and I BONDED over it. While reading it, my mother found me crying and asked what was wrong. I told her what this memoir was about, and let her read it. Once she finished, we cried together. We also laughed because it helped make sense of my own experiences with AD/HD, which went undiagnosed until I was 35. Though Mom had read a few of the “popular”, recommended AD/HD books, she had never before understood my behaviors or my feelings.

This is a must-read for anyone who has ADD, or thinks they may, as well as for parents, friends, spouses, and teachers. Though many excellent books describing AD/HD exist, most are written from a medical or purely self-help perspective, perspectives that create distance from the phenomenon of having AD/HD. Bryan’s memoir provides an invaluable contribution to the field of AD/HD literature because it is written from the perspective of an insider, someone who has ADD. Undiagnosed until the age of 37, the author recalls excruciatingly painful memories from early childhood through the more positive experiences of his present life. His tell-all life story recounts, with an amazing vulnerability, what it was like for him to grow up in his family, his school years, his friendships, his career, and his romantic life.

Perhaps most importantly, he openly describes how his behavior before his diagnosis, and others’ reactions to it, took an extreme toll on his self-esteem. This affected every area of his life, alienated him, and led to the deep-seated belief that he was inherently “bad”. The book also explains how he coped with the overwhelming shame he experienced and how he went about developing the more positive thinking patterns that have led to an extremely successful life.

Bryan provides insight into not only what having AD/HD feels like, but also explains that it is a neurological condition, thereby shattering myths still commonly held about it in our culture. He describes how AD/HDers’ minds work differently than those of non-AD/HDers’, something I wish I’d known before my own late diagnosis, and like Bryan, felt defective as a human being.

As refreshing as it is significant, Bryan focuses on many positive traits, such as the creativity many AD/HDers display, that can be cultivated. His own successes show that while there may be many negatives associated with having AD/HD, that realizing and developing the positive traits can actually be a gift, a resource for achievement.

Bryan shares his innermost thoughts through this raw recollection of his own life experiences, even in a world where having AD/HD remains stigmatized. He urges those who believe they may have AD/HD be evaluated in order to determine whether they have the disorder, maintaining that knowledge of AD/HD is key to overcoming its unique challenges and to creating a successful life and a bright future. For those of us who know we have AD/HD, he stresses the responsibility we must take for improving our lives.
Finally, the book is highly readable (especially for someone who has AD/HD!) due to its short chapters, its vivid descriptions, and the fast-moving story that moves from pain to triumph. I couldn’t put the book down. This book has changed my mindset from one of alienation to one of hope.  ~Cixous39

Cixous, again, thank you for reading my memoir and taking the time to express your experience and feelings in such a meaningful review (it means a lot to me). I hope to hear from you on our ADDer World ADHD Social Network.

~Bryan

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Again, thanks everyone! Feel free to send me further suggestions.

Bryan

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Most people who see me and are generally around me on a regular day, usually have no idea that I have ADHD (ADD). Or, for that matter, realize I am dealing with anything out of the ordinary. That is, unless they have read about me online, someone told them or read my book, I told them – stuff like that.

It hasn’t always been that way.

A few days ago I was in town and met up with a friend who I had not seen in quite a few years. We used to compete together on the same team, in a pool league, and he was someone I often talked to about my frustrations. He always had kind words and helpful advice. He’s what I would like to call an ‘every-person pick ‘em up when they are down’ kind of guy, which is to say he naturally likes everyone and looks for the best in all of us. Have you ever noticed that some people will criticize, or berate you and then try to give you supposedly helpful advice? He’s not that kind of guy – helpful, sage advice, anytime! Criticism? Not at all.

Anyway, as I was saying, I had not seen him in years, since long before I was diagnosed with ADHD. So we are talking about things, what’s new and how the pool scene as changed etc. Then I tell him about my diagnosis, therapy, book and websites – all of the details. It’s amazing how I can tell him everything without him ever once asking a question. How does he do that? Never mind that, what took me by surprise is what he said following my oration. “I know.” He said. No hint of a smile, frown or judgment whatsoever came from him, just “I know”. Honestly, if I didn’t know him as I do, he may have given me goose bumps. So naturally I start thinking someone told him or he Googled me or something… Nope.

He went on to explain that although he could not pinpoint what my conditions were exactly, he always knew there was something different about me, in the way I acted, presented myself and my general state of (erratic) behavior. Interestingly, he also told me he could sometimes sense a lack of confidence about me and when I did put-on to be confident, it came across as unnatural and distant.  It wasn’t critique, purely his observation with no good or bad attached. Although, he did laugh, and admitted that he kind of enjoyed it (my ‘put-on’) when we played league opponents, because they would become uptight and nervous, considering that I usually didn’t make too many mistakes while competing in that state of mind (I was actually hyper-focused).

As we talked more about things, he clarified that now that I have told him my situation with ADHD, therapy etc; it clearly explains things about me and the way I behaved back in the day. He told me that the confidence I have, standing (I was actually sitting) before him didn’t seem unnatural in the least, just someone secure with whom he is and what he is about. Nice! (Did he want me to pay for the drinks? There goes those non-verbal communication skills, acting up again!)

Nowadays, when someone discovers that I have ADHD and ask me “Are you sure you have ADHD?” I smile inwardly and maybe congratulate myself, just a little. Of course, I know I went through over a decade of therapy, divorce and struggled countless years with who I was and why I just couldn’t ‘get it’. And for those reasons, amongst other reasons, I do feel a sense of pride that I have come so far and it is being noticed. Even so, I also understand that most people, unless faced with ADHD in their life directly or indirectly, usually do not know what Adult ADHD looks like.

There continues to be far too many misperceptions about ADHD, especially Adult ADHD, but it is getting better. A friend of mine often points out accurately, that ADDers come in all shapes and sizes! For example, many who are not familiar with ADHD do not realize that overachieving can be a part of Adult ADHD; it is not always the other way around. That’s just an example of how some get by without being discovered, especially if their more obvious traits come across as a benefit and mask anything which is undesirable.

Like so many of us, I still have a long way to go, but if I can get here, I can get anywhere! I also believe that if I can do it, anyone can. It’s work though, let me tell you (that’s the part most people don’t see. You and I know, getting better isn’t magic, it is work, often hard and frustrating work).

Let’s hang in there!

 ~Bryan

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I was listening to an audio book recently: Challenge to Succeed by Jim Rohn. I recommend it to anyone interested in self improvement. In the audio Jim makes many good points about wealth, health and state of being. The most important point he makes is this: “What you don’t know will hurt you.”

Any late diagnosed ADDer will tell you that this is too true. What if we had known 10 years, or, 20 years earlier? What if our parents had known and we were diagnosed as children? What a difference would that have made? We can deal with ‘what if’s’ all day long, but, what about today? Today there is a wealth of information available in books and on the internet. There is no reason we cannot self-educate ourselves about our condition, not in an information packed world such as ours.

As anyone knows that reads my blog posts and books, I am for positive thinking, affirmations, medication and having heroes to look up to. And yet, above all of everything else, education about ADHD is the absolute most important method to improve one’s quality of life and situation with concern to ADHD. When I talk to people who are thriving and have overcome tremendous difficulties there are always two things which they identify as their keys to success: Self-education and a PMA Positive Mental Attitude. For those who have success with medication, that becomes 3 keys; however, self-education is always first. Medication can’t teach or instill new coping skills. PMA – a positive mental attitude is developed by the more you know and understand, the more personal stories about ADHD you read, the more you learn about current research and the latest strategies and by helping others! There are books, audio books, Teleseminars, podcasts, blogs and so much more available to you, at your fingertips!

“If I had known…” Don’t let that be your statement, put it in the past. Start now, if you haven’t already, and if you are reading this I am assuming you have already started. I am telling you, the more you understand, the more you know… it will make a world of difference.

“Schooling will get you a job; Self-education will get you a life. – Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.” Jim Rohn

For the person who refuses to self-educate with or without medication, nothing else will help them! Some have told me that they can’t read just one book at a time and that frustrates them. Why? Who made the rule you must read only one book at a time? When we went to school and had 6 classes in a day, how many books were we required to read at any given time? It’s okay to read more than one book at a time, its okay to listen to yet another book, or podcast, or teleseminar on the way to work. It’s not okay to do none of those things! I am telling you, we can’t rely on medication alone, or, PMA alone! It is being proven day in and day out that awareness of and self-education of ADHD is improving lives! Yes, some are pretty ticked off about having it and yes, some people hate and loathe ADHD, but, even so, to deny the existence of and not learn as much as one can about ADHD will just make things more difficult, not only for yourself, but, also for those around you.

“What you don’t know will hurt you.” Jim Rohn

~Bryan

PS: I do support medication and try to avoid writing about my personal experience with medication, because, I do not want to deter anyone from seeking proper treatment which could include medication. With that said, I had a very bad experience with medication and after nearly 3 years I am still recovering. If I had self-educated myself about medication for ADHD and self-educated myself about side effects and withdrawal syndrome I would have known that I was taking medication NOT designed for ADHD and I would have known that going cold-turkey off of it could lead to my current situation with discontinuation syndrome. Now, answer me this (I know I can’t change the past), – would that information have been valuable to me before taking the medication? Yes, I can blame others, doctors or an industry, or, I can try to make others believe medication is destructive. Well, since I don’t agree with those things, let’s move on. Truth be told, I have another personal experience with medication which has also been detrimental and which, for my own reasons, I will not share. However, I have since discovered I could have learned all I had wanted or needed to know about the medication if I had chosen to self-educate myself. Every bit of information that could have given me an informed personal choice was already available on the internet. That’s all I am saying – self-educate. “But, Bryan, it’s not your fault… you didn’t know…” That’s the point exactly. Uninformed decisions with consequences can be pretty unforgiving and lasting. Thankfully, Dr. Charles Parker is writing a book about ADHD medication which will help explain the factors we need to know. How did I make it without medication? That’s already been written.

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Inside My Room

Out the window I can hear them play, the laughter, and the fun – the other kids from the neighborhood, playing, funning and laughing together. I don’t want to go outside. Trouble is out there. I want to stay here…

Inside my room.

My room is my castle, it is my spaceship, it is my universe, where I am the hero, I am the ruler – I can stay out of trouble in my room. My room is safe. I make too many mistakes. I don’t understand why I am so wrong, always wrong, always saying the wrong things. I have my room. My room is safe.

Inside my room.

It’s quiet. I am left alone. I can fly so high, I can soar anywhere I want to go – to the heavens so high. The universe is my home. I am the commander of a spaceship that travels the universe here and there all over and anywhere. I travel to so many worlds. Commander Mart I am – I am a hero! …

Inside my room.

I love the solitude. I love my fantasies of being good, of being okay and it’s my place where everybody likes me. In my room everyone is my friend! I visit different worlds; I meet strange new people who greet me with kindness and joy, yes they rejoice! Inside my room I don’t make any mistakes, I say all the right things – I can go as fast as I want to, flying here and there and never once do I hear the word STOP – I hear go, go go go! Faster – faster – go go go faster still – through the galaxies I soar! …

Inside my room.

There is no place like it in all of the world, no place, no space,  no desk confinement, no rules I don’t comprehend, no languages – I can do no wrong…

Inside my room.

I want to go outside and climb trees… I want to play on the playground… I can do those things…

Inside my room.

Why is the world so scary? Why do all the other kids have so much fun without me? They laugh, the play, they have so much fun and they smile with joyous joy – happy smiles all the time! They have no troubles, no fears, they are so very perfect and I am not… I don’t understand why I am so wrong – why can’t I be right – why can’t I be normal? But I am perfect…

Inside my room.

I am sorry… I’ll go…

Inside my room.

I won’t bother you…

Inside my room.

~Bryan

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I believe in the law of attraction, The Secret, if you will, I believe it whole heartedly. The Law of Attraction is a very sensitive subject and the cause of too many arguments and denouncements amongst a group of people who simply have not found a way to make it work for them – they are too busy believing and explaining that The Secret isn’t possible. When you read what they have to say they always seem to be protecting others from getting their hopes up or from being hurt, but, if you read closer you find the pessimism and negativity which is at the core of their very own beliefs from their very own experiences.  The bottom line is that negativity and pessimism works just as well with The Secret and seems to come naturally, especially if one has ADHD.

The Law of Attraction works for me, it has worked all of my life and without therapy it would have continued to work destructively in my life. The Law of Attraction works in our lives whether we believe it or not, whatever we focus on the most has a way of developing our future. We just seem to get more of what we’ve already got. The rich get richer and the poor keep getting poorer. There is no nuance here; it’s plain and simple reality. If you can’t believe in a better future, then a better future will not develop for you, plain and simple. No? How will a better future arrive if you can’t believe in one? It won’t, the door is locked, blocked and sealed. Only your thoughts can unseal and open the door and there is no shame in seeking help to heal one’s thoughts. I sought help, even before I discovered The Secret, if I had heard of The Secret before I had professional therapy I would have blown it off and probably cursed it! I would have explained how it does more harm than good, how it spreads false hope etc… etc…

“Thoughts become things” Napoleon Hill

Napoleon Hill studied successful people for 20 years before he wrote the first book about The Secret! 20 years of pure study of those who were successful and those who failed and found all had one thing in common: each got what he or she believed regardless of education or handicaps. Napoleon Hill applied the philosophy of what he learned and spread his message the world over! If you have heard of The Secret and The Law of Attraction the first book written about this subject and the father of all books to follow was Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill 1937. The philosophies currently taught are still the same as what Napoleon Hill wrote in 1937 and are a direct result of his studies which are still true today and have been true through-out history.

Have you ever noticed that those who have discovered, applied and benefited from The Secret spread a positive message of hope and a better future? And have you noticed those who denounce it usually do so with a negative connotation, some even becoming insulting or slanderous towards those who spread a positive message? Why is that? What’s the difference between the two messages? Exactly. The reality of one’s thoughts are in their words and actions, both positive and negative.

In my book One Boy’s Struggle I give credit to The Secret and examples of how it has worked in my life. I know that anyone can benefit from the philosophy, but, I also believe that one must be ready for it. I did not become an author on accident, I didn’t create this blog on accident, nothing I do and bring forth is on accident, and all of what I do is a direct result of what I believe. I have ADHD – Yes. I suffer from PTSD – Yes. By all rights I should not be able to do what I do and succeed at what I do, you shouldn’t be reading this!!! Do you truly think if I believed that, that you would be reading this? I didn’t think so. There was a time though that I did believe I couldn’t and wouldn’t, the world was against me… Defeated, dejected and utterly hopeless…

Thoughts do indeed become things. It’s hard as hell to redirect though when we have suffered and have been hurt and continue to hurt. As I also explain in my book, through therapy I discovered how much power my thoughts have over me, what I was thinking and how I could positively redirect those thoughts. I learned the power of positive redirection. If luck was involved it was involved in providing me with a therapist who took the time and concern to listen to me, to discover what I believed and why I believed those things. We all have reasons for the things we believe and usually we have no clue when or why those thoughts developed to begin with.

As you have probably guessed, I do not believe there was any luck involved with finding the right therapist who could help me. I wanted to get better, the desire burned within me, I knew I could not go any longer the way I was going without completely self-destructing. I went through 4 therapists before I found the therapist I felt most comfortable with. I was seeking something and even though I did not know what I was seeking exactly it still was attracted to me. The time it took seemed like forever. I could have given up at any time, but, something kept drawing me and something kept pushing me. It was a will to become better, to improve! Seek and you shall find.

I repeat: one must be ready for The Secret. If you’re not ready, that doesn’t mean you won’t eventually be ready to understand, accept and use the philosophy. When you read my book you will discover there were many steps in the process before I sought therapy. You will read about the young lady who helped me discover that I was harboring a Special Feeling inside which kept me seeking, you will meet mentors who were attracted to me at specific times, each who helped me move ever forward. The changes came slowly, step by step; I didn’t just wake up one morning and discover The Secret. It came to me when I was ready.

Thoughts become things, they really do. You don’t have to believe that… yet.

~Bryan

PS: The Secret, The Law of Attraction and Thoughts becoming things is not about eliminating total negativity.

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If I were to tell you that 3 million copies of my book “One Boy’s Struggle: A Memoir” has been sold, what would your first thoughts be? Keep in mind that “One Boy’s Struggle: A Memoir” is only sold online and is not available in any traditional bookstores (that I know of). Do you think it is possible? Do you think there is enough interest to support such a claim, if I were to make it? Do you think the lessons learned from my life, told in a way which could help millions of people suffering from ADHD, their families, friends and mentors, are worth 3 million copies being sold?

Of course you do, probably much more than 3 million, that’s why you read this. If it wasn’t interesting and worth it, you would have stopped reading this before you even started, much less getting this far. That’s the way my book is and that’s why I wrote it, because, it’s worth it and valuable beyond 3 million copies!

“One Boy’s Struggle” has helped people relate to another person who has lived through the struggles and tragedies of life undiagnosed and diagnosed ADHD. It has helped people learn new coping skills from someone who came up with them from the ground up in order to simply, literally survive. “One Boy’s Struggle” has also helped relatives and friends better understand us. Consider ADDer World, because ADDer World is an extension of my book.  No matter how challenging the circumstances may be, there is a way to overcome, a positive way can be found, there is light at the end of the tunnel – that’s what my book is ultimately about. It was written for me and for you. I am humbled and grateful that our story has spread so far and wide. We all relate. In point of fact, we can all learn from each other, that’s why I created ADDer World.

Have you read my book yet? Is it on your nightstand or bookshelf read and ready to be shared? If so, please do not keep it to yourself, many, many more people should read it and benefit from it.

Please, feel free to pass it on! Or better yet, order it for a loved one, friend or mentor. If you take the time to pass it on, it will spread and my hope of spreading awareness and insight into our realities will be realized. Does that seem too improbable to you? Or too overwhelming of a possibility? I didn’t think so. Especially if you take part and help, here’s how:

Please get yourself a copy, read it and then loan it out and pass it on… I very much encourage the free sharing of my book “One Boy’s Struggle: A Memoir” from person to person and groups to groups… If you have another idea of how to help spread “One Boy’s Struggle: A Memoir” so that schools, support groups and individuals get it into their hands, please share that with me – I know you have great ideas, that’s what ADDers do! We are the best at coming up with new ideas and best of all, if you would like to do something on your own, let me know! I need both your assistance and your ideas!!!! (Yes, there may eventually be an e-book)

Thank you!

Bryan

P.S. If you have a blog (doesn’t have to be only an ADHD blog), you can already help spread the word – talk about it, ping back, post it, link to it, lots of things… only if you want to!

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In the last few years I haven’t been that interested in reading fiction. I guess I had lost my interest in fairy tales and things which simply are not real or actual. But for some reason I recently picked up a book called The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. I was compelled to read this book out of nowhere, can’t really explain it, but the story within The Alchemist explained the reason to me.

The Alchemist is a story about living your dreams, searching out your destiny and believing in what you can’t always see.  It’s faith really, faith in yourself and that your purpose for living has meaning. “When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve your dream” is, in my opinion, the central message within The Alchemist.

If one believes in the Law of Attraction and therefore, the things you want and have faith in will be attracted to you, then The Alchemist is part of the manifestation of what I attracted to me. In the last few years I have stepped more and more away from the boundaries I had placed around me – I have achieved things of which I had only imagined or ‘dreamed’ of, but never really truly considered that I would do them. When I was diagnosed with ADHD and understood my lifelong struggles for what they actually were, the chains of mediocrity and unfaithfulness started to loosen from around my heart. Day by day those chains disintegrate even further.

In The Alchemist, Paulo advises that everyone has their very own personal legend, a dream for which they will follow, which, in fact, is the reason you and I were born. Paulo uses the story to demonstrate, in the form of a fable, how the signs (omens) are around us all the time; we simply have to have faith in our dreams so that we can ‘see’ them.  Paulo doesn’t attempt to promise us anything, he simply seems to be seeking to open our minds to the possibilities of something more.

It is clear to me that my book “One Boy’s Struggle: A Memoir – Surviving Life with Undiagnosed ADD” is much more than I had considered and that I was writing about my very own personal legend and how I have always been in search of my destiny. Paulo illustrates in The Alchemist how tragedy and struggles play a part in our search, that without those struggles we would never truly find ‘our way’. This, I believe, is the reason I decided to write not only my story, but also write what could have helped and the ‘how’ of how I improved and overcame my struggles. The story of my life growing up with undiagnosed ADD, and the repercussions thereof, is the memoir part of it; however, I use the story to illustrate a roadmap for positive outcomes, and warnings, which others can follow to avoid many of the mistakes which were either made by me or by others due to the confusions of misunderstanding the core reality of my struggles.

In my book I talk about certain people I have met and how they helped me indirectly throughout my life – I wrote about “when the student is ready, the master appears” – Once again, the master has appeared and this time in the form of a fable, The Alchemist. There has been something I have wanted to do for a very long time, let me stress this: very, very long time, and only now, at this point in my life, is it time to achieve yet another dream. By reading The Alchemist, my mind has been awakened to the ‘how’, even though I understood the ‘why’ already and I have found The Alchemist to be an omen in of itself to me. The right things, at the right times, have always happened in my life and somehow I already knew that, even if I didn’t ‘understand’ that.

“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve your dream.”
Paulo Coelho – The Alchemist

~Bryan

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