Comments on: Embracing Me and ADHD

By: Jacquelyn

Jacquelyn — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 14:20:46 +0000

I love your concept of fighting ADHD as searching for a cure OUTSIDE ourselves, whereas embracing ADHD is about accepting and cherishing all of who we are on the INSIDE.

Great post!

By: Bryan

Bryan — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 18:45:57 +0000

Hi Cheryl, thanks for stopping by and hope you come back soon… no, don’t be late for work I sent you an invite to our member site at http://www.adderworld.ning.com see ya there!

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 13:17:25 +0000

Hello. It feels momentous for me to type that simple word “hello” because after months of wanting to reach out to fellow ADDers I am finally taking a first step. I have two fully grown ADD sons and, at 50, my own ADHD (inattentive type) has become unmanageable as hormonal (sorry if that is tmi) changes are undoing my hard won coping mechanisms. If you are reading this and you have adult ADHD you will recognize why I have to end here; I am late for work and was helplessly surfing ADHD topics rather than getting ready to leave. ARGHHH! I hope to come back to this site and learn more. -c

By: Bryan

Bryan — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 09:46:29 +0000

Thank you Michelle, many of us can relate to striking back at the world and being defiant. Good for you for finding your way… I just noticed you also joined our ADDer World Social Network – Great! I will drop you a message over there too.

Bryan

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 07:33:26 +0000

Hi! I am just reading your blog for the first time. I was just diagnosed with ADD in November of last year. I am 39.

I loved your post about accepting ADD and all it could do for you and how loving what you are and managing the things that are difficult with the help of professionals.

I just wanted to say that I had to learn to accept myself at an early age because of other things, asthma and eczema that were devastating emotionally. What I didn’t know until just recently is that half of my social akwardness and difficulty had to do with my ADD. I am just now making the connections to so many events, but I am also making the connection to why I enjoy things so immensely, why I feel things so deeply and why pain seems more intense to me than other people’s pain. I had to learn to love myself early in life for all of me….but it is only now after being diagnosed and learning about the issues ADD can create that I am learning why I am the way I am and it is leading to a more informed loved and a less defiant love of myself. I always just said screw you to everyone. If you cannot like me the way I am, screw you. But this lead to behavior that was not helpful for me in my life at all. Now I stand up and I understand why and I love myself because of these things and not despite of these things.

Thanks for having a great site.

By: lavonne

lavonne — Thu, 28 May 2009 06:51:47 +0000

I stopped fighting my ADD when I finally had a name for it. For me, diagnosis 16 years ago was a huge relief. It explained so many things about my life, and helped me understand that not only wasn’t I to blame for being different, but the people around me weren’t to blame for not understanding. I was able to let go of a lot of anger then–though not all of it!

Thanks for this site. I’m looking forward to reading more.

By: Carmen

Carmen — Thu, 21 May 2009 22:51:03 +0000

I was diagnosed with ADHD in the beginning of 2008 and when I was diagnosed, I was trying to fight it, but since I’ve realized that I can’t fight it, I have and am still learning to embrace it.
Working to tweak things about yourself to make things work better for ADHD is a trial and error process. I think that and hope that eventually I will learn how to develop things that will work for me

By: Jo in Carrollton

Jo in Carrollton — Tue, 19 May 2009 22:16:55 +0000

Bryan, Really profound musings on ADD there, thanks so much! I am just starting to realize no silver bullet (medication program nor coping advice) will get rid of my ADD, but the recent psychologist sessions I’ve had really helped me and my husband start to love this “newly diagnosed/interpreted” Jo for the first time in my 53 years and (0ur) 26 years of marriage!!! And all this is just after two months of some pretty hairy and scarey discoveries about my childhood, dating patterns(although that’s about 35 years ago) and what I just did yesterday that pissed off my usually wonderful husband and why.
And this ADDER world you started has been a great motivator and solace slugging it through each day’s surprises.
Keep up the good writing and encouragement you give us ADDers!

By: jean alberti

jean alberti — Mon, 18 May 2009 14:45:06 +0000

Hi i’m Jean,
Before finding this website books were of my only knowledge of this disorder I have struggled with my entire life. Thankyou so much for sharing it is definately good food for thought for me.

By: Ron sorensons

Ron sorensons — Mon, 18 May 2009 09:32:44 +0000

I am praying with al I got for not just adhd people but all to see and believe this is a GIFT so please PLEASE use it and give back to the society who put this down stand tall and be you there is nothing better and you will see this is LIFE,
Peace to all souls