Comments on: Is it ADHD or Bad Luck?

By: Bryan

Bryan — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 21:31:13 +0000

Awesome Ashley!

Ouch! C_art! You are so right, when we are fortunate enough to find that person who ‘understands’ and helps protect us from those polls, stairs and doors, it sure is nice

Bests!

By: C_art

C_art — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 03:02:35 +0000

Hi Bryan,
Just saw this post & the messages. So, its’ not only me? For years, I would say that ‘grace’ was not even in my name. I was always bumping into something and feeling pain…not anything deliberately destructive, just bad coordination and hitting things because I was also focusing on doing something else. Thumbs stuck in van doors, hitting a pole so loudly with my forehead in Jr Hi that it went bong! and having the kids imitate the sound the rest of the way with other poles–just 2 examples that readily come to mind.

Now married, my coordination is somewhat better. However, that’s only because of a loving husband who honestly prides himself in the fact that after 10 years I have many fewer bruises on my body. Funny, that brings up jokes when friends ask, ok-so, ‘When did you stop beating your wife?’ Hubbie can handle it–thankfully.

I’ve also worked on being more mindful…. still if I could ‘grow out of’ my ADD-ness I would..

Just now its’ sometimes more scary at the more rare times the clumsiness does happen. Like almost falling down the stairs last month and remembering it with a nice bruise on the bumm. I was carrying too much trying to clear things away in a burst of energy to finish ‘organizing.

What’s new? Hello me… no matter where you go—there you are.

I guess I’ve come to believe that it’s God’s way of keeping me humble…and listening.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 23:16:40 +0000

I was diagnosed in 2nd grade.

4 out of the 6 ADD types, with 3 other learning “disabilities”.

my mom would say that I didn’t run into walls, they jumped out in front of me. thank you mom!

I’ve also found that the friends that I’ve told and stay around after, will be friends forever. I’ve been blessed with some really awesome people.

AND my IQ is on the genius level. it took years to figure that one out. since test aren’t exactly my thing and because of that, they tried to fail me several times in grade school. but I’m a college grad now.

I take a bow when I walk into things now. just to let people know what’s up.

By: Anne

Anne — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 00:21:31 +0000

You’re right, Bry. I was one who agreed about being mindful…………..if I could only remember to do it. For me EVERYTHING is a distraction.

By: Bryan

Bryan — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 19:52:26 +0000

Thanks for sharing your klutz moments with me! But, like I always say, we all share ADHD tendencies, it’s just when all or most of those tendencies get together and have a party that we actually may have ADHD!

Gary, – Your Spazatron articles on our ADHD Social Network are priceless – keep them coming, I always enjoy reading them and laughing out loud with you!

By: Gary

Gary — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 19:20:07 +0000

You know, Bryan, Spazatron needs a side kick. Maybe you should apply for the job. What was it Cesar Romero as the Joker used to call Robin? The Boy Blunder?

Seriously, I completely sympathise with your head wound. I bet you lost at least five gallons. At least that’s what it looked like, right?

In that book I was mentioning the ADD character Miriam always panics for a few minutes during an emergency and then handles it competently. I tend to do it the other way around: handle then panic.

A lot of people in our society don’t seem to handle it at all. They just do the deer-in-the-headlights thing and hope that the situation goes away or someone else handles it before they actually have to do something. It’s sad.

There’s only one way to defeat Spazatron and that’s to do those things we as ADDers are so terrible at. Not a very good answer but it’s the best I have.

By: Katy

Katy — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 19:31:16 +0000

Oh my gosh, I can’t believe nobody tried to help you. We have the opposite problem at our house. I’m the ADDer and I seem to be pretty coordinated (at least in that way, let’s not get into my mental chaos though, HAHA) and my allegedly non-ADD sweetie is constantly accidentally injuring ME! He tries to sit next to me on the couch and his elbow bonks me in the face, tries to hand me something, overshoots and it cracks into my knee, drops things on me…it happens ALL the time. But you know, I wouldn’t trade him for anything, he’s one of the nicest people I’ve ever known, and certainly the nicest one I’ve ever dated. We all have our gifts and our curses But I’m sorry you injured yourself…OUCH.

By: C.J. MacKechnie

C.J. MacKechnie — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 10:00:41 +0000

I do not see any of that as bad luck as I have shared in similar mindless self destructive experiences as you have. It is by no means a pattern of bad luck as it is a pattern of a failure to pay attention to details or a failure to control ones own impulses when walking.
I tell my son. That it is not wise to hyper focus when walking across the street or you may become smashed, bashed and crashed.
I remember once. When I was doing something rather sneaky and silently in the dark. I had payed attention so much on the target in question. That I forgot about the diagonal guide wire on a power pole. I hit it in a dead run. Me and all of my gear came to a dead stop. The air in my lungs loudly came out. The power pole loudly shook and I was on my back.
Forever more after that, I was teased when the general warning was offered for being on the look out for expletive power poles.

By: Anne

Anne — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 23:49:30 +0000

Good suggestion, David.

By: Bryan

Bryan — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 19:40:00 +0000

Thank you Dana!

Isn’t that the most interesting thing about ADHD, that once we start researching it, learning and understanding, then we start to correct behavior, become more ‘mindful’, because, even as odd as that sounds, it is part of the process to improvement and overcoming our innate traits.