Comments on: To speak or not to speak, that is the question.

By: Bryan

Bryan — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 19:32:27 +0000

Sorry Jackie! Feedburner link is fixed

By: Jackie

Jackie — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 09:35:29 +0000

Hi ! ,

I tried to “subscribe” but got a no win circle.
Feed burner is not accepting and google wants to transfer me, but I was not there…. Is this me and my ADHD? or a …..?

But I’m really glad to have found your site! Jackie

By: Katy B. "Miss K"

Katy B. "Miss K" — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:15:29 +0000

Very interesting. I had a sort of similar learning experience when I was very small. I remember it vividly because the revelation in the moment was SO huge to me. I was eight, and driving in the car with my mother and her friend. They were talking and there was something I REALLYREALLYREALLY had to tell my mom RIGHT NOW!!! Of course it wasn’t actually that important but I sure thought it was…as I always did…as I followed her around the house talking her head off everyday…

So I’m sitting there while they’re talking going MOMMOMMOMMOMMOMMOMMOMMOMMOM!

And she turned to me and said, honey, we are having a conversation right now and you are going to have to wait to tell me, okay? You don’t have to say everything that pops into your head, out loud, all the time.

Bryan, this blew my mind. The concept had never occurred to me. And this realization. Made me feel…powerful. Realizing that I could CHOOSE or not chose to speak…what power! A few minutes later when she turned to me and said “thank you for waiting your turn, what did you want to tell us” (god bless her for having the patience to articulate that instead of being annoyed with me)…I just sat there and smiled and said “nothing!”. HAHAHA…I still talk way too much, am a total Chatty Kathy, and often interrupt people precisely because I am excited about what they are saying…but that lesson has stuck with me, that feeling of power, and it does indeed help me sometimes to remember it, in those moments when I feel like I’m gonna explode if I don’t speak. It helps me redirect my mind so that even if I am still off on a tangent, that tangent isn’t necessarily coming outta my mouth.

So in any case…more truth brother, good stuff, thanks.

And thank you for plugging my blog, I really appreciate it…I was so exasperated with myself that day that I wrote that post but in the end all I could do was laugh…my boyfriend was cracking up too. He loves my ridiculous, spontaneous, and yes, forgetful brain…

By: JP (Judy)

JP (Judy) — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 11:40:01 +0000

Remembering those “seeds” that other people in our lives planted inside of our minds and hearts is special. To me it’s evidence that we are not islands; we’re all interconnected in this world. I was listening to one of Dr. Ratey’s interview podcasts last night, talking about the 4 theaters of the brain. Even the tiniest experience we have and each word spoken to us contributes to the values we develop and helps form the constructs we use to guide us through our lives. I know our brains are in constant flux but there are some memories that are pretty much “truths” for us. Thanks for sharing one of those that, for you, became embedded!!

For me, I was significantly shaped by something a religion professor taught me in college. The Hebrew word, “timshel” is translated to mean “thou mayest” and I’ve clung on to that with a passion all these years. “Thou mayest” represents free will to me. We have been given the capacity to use our talents, our gifts, and our lives as we see fit. We know we’ll make mistakes because that’s what we do, as human beings. We can learn and move forward in our journey or – not; if we use our free will to live in mediocrity, as you mentioned, we’ll never know the joy that can accompany the “journey.” I’m not going on a deep philosophical jag! I just wanted to give another example of how others can have a meaningful influence on our lives.

Again Bryan, thanks for writing another thought-provoking blog!