Comments on: The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/ Bryan Hutchinson's thoughts about ADD ADHD Attention Deficit Disorder and other stuff Sun, 06 May 2012 01:22:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Scott Hutson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34364 Scott Hutson Sat, 20 Mar 2010 15:52:15 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34364 Yes Bryan, exactly> Strategies for coping! That may be the point of my comments. Perception, being in my case, perceiving ADHD as an enemy, I will fight. On a good day, I may "Run The Table" on it. But we will meet again, at the next battle of a war that I will lose, but deny the fact that I can't win the war someday....The Gift of Denial maybe? Or the Curse of ....Scotty's Mind.... Yes Bryan, exactly> Strategies for coping! That may be the point of my comments. Perception, being in my case, perceiving ADHD as an enemy, I will fight. On a good day, I may “Run The Table” on it. But we will meet again, at the next battle of a war that I will lose, but deny the fact that I can’t win the war someday….The Gift of Denial maybe? Or the Curse of ….Scotty’s Mind….

]]> By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34355 Bryan Hutchinson Sat, 20 Mar 2010 07:54:47 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34355 Ha Scott! If you only knew how many cue sticks I have purchased over the years!!! ;) To a degree I have learned to see ADHD as a mind game too. I really think it helps the mind of an ADDer to be involved in competition of some sort which allows the mind to work strategically. When we learn to think strategically in sports, competition or for something we desperately want, I think we can also gain useful strategies for coping with our ADHD too... Ha Scott! If you only knew how many cue sticks I have purchased over the years!!! ;) To a degree I have learned to see ADHD as a mind game too. I really think it helps the mind of an ADDer to be involved in competition of some sort which allows the mind to work strategically. When we learn to think strategically in sports, competition or for something we desperately want, I think we can also gain useful strategies for coping with our ADHD too…

]]> By: Scott Hutson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34347 Scott Hutson Fri, 19 Mar 2010 23:23:03 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34347 That's a matter of perception that I can agree with you on Bryan. We do see the reality of ADHD being what we are. I will admit that I am denial of the fact that I cannot stop the progression of some things. Getting older being one(chuckle). I like your reference to Pool Tournaments. I have some experience with that. It is definitely a Mind Game, when playing other's with the same ability and skills. Some days I could just run a table with no effort, confident with no doubt that I would win. Then other times, miss the easiest shots. Thinking too hard or something, I don't know. (I would blaim it on my cuestick,lol, go buy a new one) That’s a matter of perception that I can agree with you on Bryan. We do see the reality of ADHD being what we are. I will admit that I am denial of the fact that I cannot stop the progression of some things. Getting older being one(chuckle).

I like your reference to Pool Tournaments. I have some experience with that. It is definitely a Mind Game, when playing other’s with the same ability and skills. Some days I could just run a table with no effort, confident with no doubt that I would win. Then other times, miss the easiest shots. Thinking too hard or something, I don’t know. (I would blaim it on my cuestick,lol, go buy a new one)

]]> By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34284 Bryan Hutchinson Thu, 18 Mar 2010 07:26:15 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34284 Welcome aboard Glenn! Glad to have ya! The pain, the struggles, the challenges, the heartbreaks, Glenn, are very real and if we allow them to, they give us every reason to go in a negative direction. It's understandable and I have done it myself and that, my friend, is why I write my stories... looking forward to more of your input :) Welcome aboard Glenn! Glad to have ya! The pain, the struggles, the challenges, the heartbreaks, Glenn, are very real and if we allow them to, they give us every reason to go in a negative direction. It’s understandable and I have done it myself and that, my friend, is why I write my stories… looking forward to more of your input :)

]]> By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34283 Bryan Hutchinson Thu, 18 Mar 2010 07:17:35 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34283 I get exactly what you are saying Scott. I've been there and done that and let me tell you, no words I write can change that for you or anyone else and to be honest, I don't know if my words should play that role. For me though, I have struggled and failed in many things, but I have also succeeded in many things - in those places I have succeeded it is because I learned to work with the disadvantages and not allow them to rule. My perception of them was a major issue. In billiards for example, I tried to 'force' positions, 'force' shots, but when I learned to work with what was given to me, even the terrible positions which made it look like the game was lost, only then when taking the bad and trying to find what I could make good out of it, did I find a winning shot (not always lol)! The hard part was that just looking at it another way wasn't the only key, but when I did that I started to learn ways to compensate, new ways to put spin (english) on the ball and new ways to extend the game and I became a better player for doing it that way. I try to look at everything that way, it doesn't change the fact I have ADHD or that ADHD causes me struggles and pain, of course it does, but do I allow those things to rule over me <strong>or</strong> do I find a way to make them work to my advantage? Besides, ADHD is a part of who I am it is not separate from me and I cannot banish it, if I call it an enemy, then ultimately I am calling a part of who I am within an enemy and that's something I simply cannot and will not do any more. Now, on the other hand, if ADHD could be cured or if it was a tumor that could be removed, then we would be talking about something else, but we are talking about something that is a part of who we are and no matter what angle we come from, it will always remain a part of us. If I were to sincerely think of ADHD as an enemy then I would go back to working against it, then like before, I will be ultimately working against myself. We find that in treatment, studying with a partner or a tutor helps us - that's not fighting ADHD, that's actually working with ADHD and suddenly, by productively managing it in a manner that is beneficial to it (ourselves actually) then we start to study better, learn better and absorb better... that's not something I would do with an enemy. Would you? Just my perspective, of course :) Bryan I get exactly what you are saying Scott. I’ve been there and done that and let me tell you, no words I write can change that for you or anyone else and to be honest, I don’t know if my words should play that role. For me though, I have struggled and failed in many things, but I have also succeeded in many things – in those places I have succeeded it is because I learned to work with the disadvantages and not allow them to rule. My perception of them was a major issue. In billiards for example, I tried to ‘force’ positions, ‘force’ shots, but when I learned to work with what was given to me, even the terrible positions which made it look like the game was lost, only then when taking the bad and trying to find what I could make good out of it, did I find a winning shot (not always lol)! The hard part was that just looking at it another way wasn’t the only key, but when I did that I started to learn ways to compensate, new ways to put spin (english) on the ball and new ways to extend the game and I became a better player for doing it that way. I try to look at everything that way, it doesn’t change the fact I have ADHD or that ADHD causes me struggles and pain, of course it does, but do I allow those things to rule over me or do I find a way to make them work to my advantage? Besides, ADHD is a part of who I am it is not separate from me and I cannot banish it, if I call it an enemy, then ultimately I am calling a part of who I am within an enemy and that’s something I simply cannot and will not do any more. Now, on the other hand, if ADHD could be cured or if it was a tumor that could be removed, then we would be talking about something else, but we are talking about something that is a part of who we are and no matter what angle we come from, it will always remain a part of us.

If I were to sincerely think of ADHD as an enemy then I would go back to working against it, then like before, I will be ultimately working against myself. We find that in treatment, studying with a partner or a tutor helps us – that’s not fighting ADHD, that’s actually working with ADHD and suddenly, by productively managing it in a manner that is beneficial to it (ourselves actually) then we start to study better, learn better and absorb better… that’s not something I would do with an enemy. Would you? Just my perspective, of course :)

Bryan

]]> By: Scott Hutson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34279 Scott Hutson Thu, 18 Mar 2010 06:20:54 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34279 Bryan, I think that looking at it that way is good for you. For me though, ADD or any disorder in our brains,body,mind,etc... is an enemy. I am a fighter of these enemy's in my own life. I cannot look at any of these things as a gift to me or my family. Anything that hurts, or has ever hurt me, may try it's best to deceive me, and give me "gifts" so I will embrace them. Then later I will find out these "gifts" had a hidden price tag that must be payed by me......The taste is sweet to the lips, yet bitter to the soul....That may only be true for me Bryan. You seam to have found the way around that,.. for You. I am honestly happy for you, and will always think of you as a Friend who wants to help me and others with your insight. Thank you for this. Bryan,

I think that looking at it that way is good for you. For me though, ADD or any disorder in our brains,body,mind,etc… is an enemy. I am a fighter of these enemy’s in my own life. I cannot look at any of these things as a gift to me or my family.

Anything that hurts, or has ever hurt me, may try it’s best to deceive me, and give me “gifts” so I will embrace them. Then later I will find out these “gifts” had a hidden price tag that must be payed by me……The taste is sweet to the lips, yet bitter to the soul….That may only be true for me Bryan. You seam to have found the way around that,.. for You. I am honestly happy for you, and will always think of you as a Friend who wants to help me and others with your insight. Thank you for this.

]]> By: Glenn http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34274 Glenn Thu, 18 Mar 2010 04:12:49 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34274 Bryan, Thanks for the post. This perspective reminds me of the movie "A Beautiful Mind". We who have mental health issues have in substance a world in view which is distorted (but not delusional). It feels so real, but it is not what is true about us. The negativity is so relentless that we believe it is totally true. Bryan, I am a new member to this group. I believe that you are very gifted and in knowing yourself and the ability to communicate it in writing. Thanks Bryan,
Thanks for the post. This perspective reminds me of the movie “A Beautiful Mind”. We who have mental health issues have in substance a world in view which is distorted (but not delusional). It feels so real, but it is not what is true about us. The negativity is so relentless that we believe it is totally true.

Bryan, I am a new member to this group. I believe that you are very gifted and in knowing yourself and the ability to communicate it in writing. Thanks

]]> By: Jeff http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34218 Jeff Wed, 17 Mar 2010 01:04:14 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34218 Bryan, We are *definitely* in agreement. But my darned, stubborn ADHD keeps harping on me about the "G" word...but I'll control it for now. ;) Jeff Bryan,

We are *definitely* in agreement. But my darned, stubborn ADHD keeps harping on me about the “G” word…but I’ll control it for now. ;)

Jeff

]]> By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34206 Bryan Hutchinson Tue, 16 Mar 2010 21:55:36 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34206 Sally, we've only met online and yes, I already know you have an abundant resource of enthusiasm and positivity! Please continue to "dump" on us over on our ADDer World Social thingy!! That's why I created it you know, so we could talk about our struggles, our challenges, along with the things we have done well and/or are doing well. You and I, we can become as positive as we want to be, but there are always going to be issues which jump out at us, ADHD is always going to bite us in the rear from time to time, so yes, that's what we are here for :) :) Bryan Sally, we’ve only met online and yes, I already know you have an abundant resource of enthusiasm and positivity!

Please continue to “dump” on us over on our ADDer World Social thingy!! That’s why I created it you know, so we could talk about our struggles, our challenges, along with the things we have done well and/or are doing well.

You and I, we can become as positive as we want to be, but there are always going to be issues which jump out at us, ADHD is always going to bite us in the rear from time to time, so yes, that’s what we are here for :)

:) Bryan

]]> By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34205 Bryan Hutchinson Tue, 16 Mar 2010 21:51:20 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34205 :) Thanks Jacquelyn! :) Thanks Jacquelyn!

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