Comments on: Self Doubt and the ADHD Mind http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/04/20/self-doubt-and-the-adhd-mind/ Bryan Hutchinson's thoughts about ADD ADHD Attention Deficit Disorder and other stuff Sun, 06 May 2012 01:22:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/04/20/self-doubt-and-the-adhd-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-37608 Bryan Hutchinson Tue, 29 Jun 2010 05:20:39 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3484#comment-37608 Mike, for me it has been writing about it, making sure the people I hang around have a positive influence and not bring me down and therapy has done wonders for me. My suggestion is to start a journal, keep track and write about the things which are important and bring joy to your mind and body. It all sounds rather simple and yet, for me at least, has been profound. Mike, for me it has been writing about it, making sure the people I hang around have a positive influence and not bring me down and therapy has done wonders for me. My suggestion is to start a journal, keep track and write about the things which are important and bring joy to your mind and body. It all sounds rather simple and yet, for me at least, has been profound.

]]> By: mike ryan http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/04/20/self-doubt-and-the-adhd-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-37603 mike ryan Mon, 28 Jun 2010 21:16:59 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3484#comment-37603 So the remedy is??? So the remedy is???

]]> By: Brian http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/04/20/self-doubt-and-the-adhd-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-37401 Brian Sat, 19 Jun 2010 23:23:25 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3484#comment-37401 This is me to a nut shell, I have bounced around for the last 7 years jobs etc. If something goes wrong it just buries me, it's not easy not to feel self doubt. Sometimes you just believe you will never be happy and say why bother. People never understand you they always have some comment sometimes you think your better off on your own island. Lastly you sometimes even question you very existence in life. A good article Thanks This is me to a nut shell, I have bounced around for the last 7 years jobs etc. If something goes wrong it just buries me, it’s not easy not to feel self doubt. Sometimes you just believe you will never be happy and say why bother. People never understand you they always have some comment sometimes you think your better off on your own island. Lastly you sometimes even question you very existence in life. A good article
Thanks

]]> By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/04/20/self-doubt-and-the-adhd-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-35707 Bryan Hutchinson Sat, 24 Apr 2010 10:50:04 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3484#comment-35707 "The core belief that I have when all is said and done is “There is something wrong with me” or “I am defective”." ~Glenn " “Being realistic” is such an insidious cover for self doubt, and not as obvious as the blatant form. " ~Leah "I think, it is because I was confronted so often to failures and difficulties..." ~Véronique St-Martin "Self-doubt couched as realistic thinking..." ~Kathleen "I think what I really need to focus on now is finding a human outlet for my frustrations. A support group or therapist would probably make all the difference right now." ~Shannon I think we can make a real diffirence together! Such powerful, meaningful comments. Thank you. ~Bryan “The core belief that I have when all is said and done is “There is something wrong with me” or “I am defective”.” ~Glenn

” “Being realistic” is such an insidious cover for self doubt, and not as obvious as the blatant form. ” ~Leah

“I think, it is because I was confronted so often to failures and difficulties…” ~Véronique St-Martin

“Self-doubt couched as realistic thinking…” ~Kathleen

“I think what I really need to focus on now is finding a human outlet for my frustrations. A support group or therapist would probably make all the difference right now.” ~Shannon

I think we can make a real diffirence together! Such powerful, meaningful comments. Thank you.

~Bryan

]]> By: Leah D http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/04/20/self-doubt-and-the-adhd-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-35633 Leah D Fri, 23 Apr 2010 02:57:47 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3484#comment-35633 Thanks, Bryan. Your post is so insightful and compassionate. "Being realistic" is such an insidious cover for self doubt, and not as obvious as the blatant form. I am 66 years old and have done a lot of therapy, spiritual practices, etc. I no longer experience the blatant, overt self doubt that I did when I was younger. However, reading your words was akin to the Zen bamboo stick tapping my head, reminding me to wake up, because the "realistic" form of self doubt is alive and well in me. Now the question is what will I do with this knowledge? My self doubt says "probably not much." I'm going to save this post and refer back to it from time to time. Again, thank you and namaste'. Thanks, Bryan. Your post is so insightful and compassionate. “Being realistic” is such an insidious cover for self doubt, and not as obvious as the blatant form. I am 66 years old and have done a lot of therapy, spiritual practices, etc. I no longer experience the blatant, overt self doubt that I did when I was younger. However, reading your words was akin to the Zen bamboo stick tapping my head, reminding me to wake up, because the “realistic” form of self doubt is alive and well in me. Now the question is what will I do with this knowledge? My self doubt says “probably not much.” I’m going to save this post and refer back to it from time to time. Again, thank you and namaste’.

]]> By: Glenn http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/04/20/self-doubt-and-the-adhd-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-35569 Glenn Thu, 22 Apr 2010 02:44:48 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3484#comment-35569 Bryan, You have hit us right between the eyes. The core belief that I have when all is said and done is "There is something wrong with me" or "I am defective". Like you and others, I have been to therapy, 12 step groups and they have helped tremendously. But, I feel there is a lid on me that tells me to I can not dream too big or to believe to much. I do not have what it takes or that no one will support me or I am alone. I just finished your first book, the autobiography. I resonate with your story and your insight. You capture our traits and inner world really well. It is such a help to see it in you. Bryan,
You have hit us right between the eyes. The core belief that I have when all is said and done is “There is something wrong with me” or “I am defective”.

Like you and others, I have been to therapy, 12 step groups and they have helped tremendously. But, I feel there is a lid on me that tells me to I can not dream too big or to believe to much. I do not have what it takes or that no one will support me or I am alone.

I just finished your first book, the autobiography. I resonate with your story and your insight. You capture our traits and inner world really well. It is such a help to see it in you.

]]> By: Véronique St-Martin http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/04/20/self-doubt-and-the-adhd-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-35549 Véronique St-Martin Wed, 21 Apr 2010 19:35:51 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3484#comment-35549 Thank you Bryan, for these encouraging words ! It helps me a lot psychologically, because, I'm always self-doubting ! I think, it is because I was confronted so often to failures and difficulties but I profoundly believe that it's not a very helpful attitude to anyone who wants to accomplish great things in his life ! Thank you Bryan, for these encouraging words ! It helps me a lot psychologically, because, I’m always self-doubting ! I think, it is because I was confronted so often to failures and difficulties but I profoundly believe that it’s not a very helpful attitude to anyone who wants to accomplish great things in his life !

]]> By: Shannon Maier http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/04/20/self-doubt-and-the-adhd-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-35537 Shannon Maier Wed, 21 Apr 2010 13:36:46 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3484#comment-35537 Kathleen and Bryan, thank you both for your helpful advice. It really helps to be able to talk to other adults who can understand what you are dealing with. I think that is a big part of my problem right there, feeling isolated. I don't think I have ever had a time in my life where there was someone who really "got" me. Someone who didn't judge or try to fix things for me but was just there with support and a good ear. As a consequence, I have learned to internalize everything and just get through it, but somethings are never fully resolved until they see the light of day. I have always loved to read because it is such an escape for my mind. I am also beginning to see that exercise needs to be a priority in my life. Not just for the obvious health reasons but because it also makes me feel better mentally. I think what I really need to focus on now is finding a human outlet for my frustrations. A support group or therapist would probably make all the difference right now. Thanks again, Shannon Kathleen and Bryan, thank you both for your helpful advice. It really helps to be able to talk to other adults who can understand what you are dealing with. I think that is a big part of my problem right there, feeling isolated. I don’t think I have ever had a time in my life where there was someone who really “got” me. Someone who didn’t judge or try to fix things for me but was just there with support and a good ear. As a consequence, I have learned to internalize everything and just get through it, but somethings are never fully resolved until they see the light of day.

I have always loved to read because it is such an escape for my mind. I am also beginning to see that exercise needs to be a priority in my life. Not just for the obvious health reasons but because it also makes me feel better mentally.

I think what I really need to focus on now is finding a human outlet for my frustrations. A support group or therapist would probably make all the difference right now.

Thanks again,
Shannon

]]> By: Kathleen Christensen http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/04/20/self-doubt-and-the-adhd-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-35524 Kathleen Christensen Wed, 21 Apr 2010 05:40:37 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3484#comment-35524 Self-doubt couched as realistic thinking. Yes, you've hit the nail on the head! I've used that on myself a lot. Thank you for making the connection. Shannon, I relate to the rumination thing. Lots of things have helped me a little bit--everything from therapy, 12-step groups, and adult ADD support groups to meditation, time in nature, exercise, distraction (a good book or movie), talking to someone about what I'm ruminating about, or writing about it. And trying not just to fight the negative voices in my head (I have a chorus of them!), but to strengthen the healthy voice inside as well. Sending you my best! Self-doubt couched as realistic thinking. Yes, you’ve hit the nail on the head! I’ve used that on myself a lot. Thank you for making the connection.

Shannon, I relate to the rumination thing. Lots of things have helped me a little bit–everything from therapy, 12-step groups, and adult ADD support groups to meditation, time in nature, exercise, distraction (a good book or movie), talking to someone about what I’m ruminating about, or writing about it. And trying not just to fight the negative voices in my head (I have a chorus of them!), but to strengthen the healthy voice inside as well. Sending you my best!

]]> By: Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/04/20/self-doubt-and-the-adhd-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-35511 Bryan Hutchinson Tue, 20 Apr 2010 21:57:36 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3484#comment-35511 Hi Shannon, I relate to your current condition with regard to self-doubt and, I believe most Adult ADDers know your struggles well, if not all exactly the same. I punished myself with self-doubt for so long that it became paralyzing. I had to get help, because, honestly, there does come a point when getting help is the only legitimate alternative. I am so glad that I did, because I was going nowhere fast. The incessant negative self-talk and memories of mistakes and misspoken words would never calm, leaving me unable to sleep and unable to focus on anything productive without telling myself 'it won't work out anyway' - ADHD plays a major role in creating self-doubt, indeed by repeating mistakes, re-jumping the same hurdles over and over again makes our minds fertile and open to the ridicule and doubt within, but there is hope and there is help. This is the area I believe therapy has the most benefit for Adults with ADHD. Bests, Bryan Hi Shannon,

I relate to your current condition with regard to self-doubt and, I believe most Adult ADDers know your struggles well, if not all exactly the same. I punished myself with self-doubt for so long that it became paralyzing. I had to get help, because, honestly, there does come a point when getting help is the only legitimate alternative. I am so glad that I did, because I was going nowhere fast. The incessant negative self-talk and memories of mistakes and misspoken words would never calm, leaving me unable to sleep and unable to focus on anything productive without telling myself ‘it won’t work out anyway’ – ADHD plays a major role in creating self-doubt, indeed by repeating mistakes, re-jumping the same hurdles over and over again makes our minds fertile and open to the ridicule and doubt within, but there is hope and there is help. This is the area I believe therapy has the most benefit for Adults with ADHD.

Bests,

Bryan

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