Our special skill is actually emotional sensitivity. Sometimes that skill is too much for us and we act unskilfully- embark n foolish relationships, or get so overwhelmed with affect that we make errors of judgement.

Many of us experience so many reversals that we become emotionally defended. Do not be decieved. That is a crust hiding our true nature, and protecting us at times of excessive vulnerability.
At heart though, our way is the way of the heart. Love and sex are at the core of that. When we embrace our true nature, nobody makes a better lover than an awakened attention difference person.