You must not have read my book One Boy’s Struggle yet, so I am not going to tell you exactly why, but trust me when I tell you that when you read my book that you are going to laugh and cry and perhaps, even flip out when you read how I met my very best friend ever!!! Got read it now

Trust me, your going to be amazed! wow

Bryan

The “best friend” I have really ever had is gone. But I had him. The first time we met, we had a fist fight. But we became the closest friends that I have ever known to exist.

We were lucky to be allowed to become friends by not having teachers/parents seeing the fight and assuming we would could not. I was judged way too much by these ppl who thought they knew what I was not.

Seriously, there comes a point in the school system where control to protect crosses a line and does draw extreme resemblances. However, on the side of schools there’s just too much lack of control, but not for lack of rules, standards and regulations. It’s because there is a general lack of empathy amongst the students, because there are simply too many in several of the schools for them to develop any loyal friends and learn how to treat each other with respect and courtesy – but let’s not forget now-a-days both parents are typically out working and the schools have become partial parental substitutes and they sometimes actually portray that role.

I don’t know about going so far as saying we are controlled as North Korea, I find that toooo extreme, but I get your idea and having lived abroad (in Europe) myself, it’s easy to see why you would think that. In most of Europe crime is something you don’t experience too much of and there are days when I don’t see a local cop anywhere around, sometimes I’ve gone a week without seeing one. Rules are rather laid back and folks generally get along. I think what is very interesting considering somewhere like Germany, they rate rather well compared to the states academically, but kids go to school at 8am and are let out at… drum roll… 1pm. I think that’s also why such diagnosis of ADHD is lesser over there and typically ‘right on target’, rather than over diagnosis of people caught up in situations that draw out such behaviors that mimic ADHD.

What we are really seeing here is deliberate policy aimed to disrupt human allegiances to friends and to family, and to put all allegiance in the state.
As an Australian, I see only too clearly how efficiently controlled the American people are. The American people seem as deeply programmed as the North Koreans, to be perfectly honest.
There is a reason we ADDers have such a dislike of the education system- it is deliberately boring, and stunts our development rather than advances us. It happens this way, because this system gives the greatest profit and control, to those who are already the richest, and are in control in our society.

The real way to deal with our ADD is to see ourselves for what we are. The world is like “The Matrix” and just like Neo- we are the ones who sleep the lightest.

I hate to get political- but that is what it takes to break the crust- and expose the truth. ADHD people are lovers of truth and logic. We only get dysfunctional when we allow ourselves to be dominated by people who are deceiving us.

But…. the ADHD person person’s true character comes in here. In the event of situations where it is necessary to exercise valor and truth it is the ADHD/ADD person who stands boldly and fearlessly to confront unjust forces. (i.e. we say “B*llsh*t” when it’s necessary.) That, Bryan, is where we outshine all others. We take risks while many others play it safe. We are the warriors. Without us, justice will fall to anarchy. Of course we’ll be the first target. But I do believe we also stir others to find courage. Like General Custer whose cavalry held back Jeb Stuart at the July 3rd 1863 Battle of Gettysburg. He was last in his class at West Point . I think he was one of us. (Even if our homes/offices/personal papers/inome tax records are all disasters we are still needed.)

The world is filled with monuments to the energetic, creative, daring individals most of whom probably had a touch of this “gift.” Give yourself a pat on the back folks. When the chips are down, we are the leaders and super-heroes that save the world!

I agree with you, but I don’t agree with the article. Few things get me heated, but since you know my story, you also know why this gets me heated. I read the article several times and although I agree that becoming possessive of anyone is not healthy, that’s not really a ‘best friend’ problem, it’s something else more profound. By taking away the chemistry ‘two people’ (not singular) find between each other that to me is unhealthy. Yes, they might argue and fight and eventually go separate ways, but that’s part of learning too. I simply want to point out that there is a line that is being crossed here that isn’t healthy. Later in life kids will become adults and have relationships with certain people and if they have never experienced ‘best friends’ or at least a ‘close’ friend, then they won’t understand or be as well able to cope with situations that arise in such friendships in adulthood. But still, the argument against the best friend relationship came across as a witch hunt to me, but that might only be my interpretation.

Anyhow, I like the simple counter at the end of the article by Dr. Thompson:

“No one can teach you what a great friend is, what a fair-weather friend is, what a treacherous and betraying friend is except to have a great friend, a fair-weather friend or a treacherous and betraying friend,” said Michael Thompson, a psychologist who is an author of the book “Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children.”

“When a teacher is trying to tone down a best-friend culture, I would like to know why,” Dr. Thompson said. “Is it causing misery for the class? Or is there one girl who does have friends but just can’t bear the thought that she doesn’t have as good a best friend as another? That to me is normal social pain. If you’re mucking around too much in the lives of kids who are just experiencing normal social pain, you shouldn’t be.” — Exactly, well said Dr. Thompson!