Put a bulletin board on your wall and make it a happiness board.
I’ve always had difficulty with personal “deadlines” and “goals”. I wave at them as they pass by unfinished or, in most cases, not even started. However, I have found a way to turn my wants, needs and desires into visual reminders. I’ve learned that the more my mind is reminded of something in a pleasant, pressure free way, the more likely I am to do it. Because of this I created a visual “happiness board”. It’s on the wall just above my desk where I write every day.
When I was writing One Boy’s Struggle, I created a mock-up cover and pinned it to my happiness board. I set no deadline to complete the book, but somehow that picture reminded me every day that I would finish it and, I did!
It’s wonderful to have friends, especially those who encourage us to be the best that we can be. However, it’s also important to remember that we tend to emulate the people we are around the most. If we’ve fallen into a pessimistic, negative or downbeat group, then perhaps we need to adjust our friendships, especially if we want to move on to happier horizons.
Friendships are incredibly important. Therefore:
Choose friends wisely.
If you truly want to be happy, my experience is to choose friends that encourage and support you, have an optimistic nature and like you for who you are and who you are becoming. Consider the direction you are going and the direction you want to go, and then hang around and befriend people that are as you would like to become. As they say, if you want to be happy, surround yourself with happy people, because they will rub off on you!
The title of this post is a question I received from a reader just the other day and I thought it would make a great blog post: How can I stay positive and happy every day?I have ADHD!
There’s a common assumption that if you have ADHD life is pretty much is going to suck every day. Heck, I bet you can prove it, too! We are quickly drawn to the ‘problems’, ’challenges’ and ‘bad behavior’. It is natural and normal.
Here’s a simple multi-part tip that I have used for the last few years and I have found it very effective:
Every morning before starting the day tell yourself something ‘good’ is going to happen today.
I have received many requests for tips on blogging. I typically respond with a link or two from the likes of great bloggers such as Seth Godin (my personal favorite) and a few others. I rarely share any tips of my own. Today I am going to share my top ten self imposed rules. They are not perfect, but they have served me well.
Be honest. Blog from the heart and say what you mean to say without trying to guess what people want you to say. If you are trying to say what others want you to say then you are not being honest with yourself and not being honest with your readers.
“Dancing with the feet is one thing, but dancing with the heart is another.”
Author unknown
One of the most frequent inquiries that I get is about writing.
It’s a funny thing, writing, you don’t have to be very good at it to do it and I am not very good at it. Some say I am, some say I am not and some are in-between. It’s nice to hear that someone has enjoyed something I have written, and it is painful to hear that my writing isn’t all that good. Either way, I benefit from my ADHD mind in that I don’t focus on criticism too long (not all criticism anyway). It’s not that I don’t care, because trust me, I do care, but one way or the other I just keep on writing. My thoughts and fingers love to dance.
This eBook is for anyone who wants to learn how to Super Focus at will! Especially for those people in sports, school or just need more control of their focus. ADHD not required!
Thanks to a special article about hyper focusing, I recently published in ADDitude magazine (fall 2009), I have received many emails asking me how I learned to hyper focus at will and make it a beneficial trait I can call upon whenever I want. To clarify, I have used the term ‘hyper’ because it is most recognizable; however, I now personally call it SUPER Focusing. When focusing is not within one’s control, I believe it should be defined as ’hyper’. Although, when we purposely aim to achieve the state of being ‘hyper’ Focused at will, when we in fact control it to our advantage, the results can be extremely rewarding and that is SUPER Focus!
"One Boy’s Struggle is a real eye-opener. It should be read by all parents struggling to understand how best to support their ADHD children. Adults with ADHD will likely find validation and new hope from reading Bryan’s story.” ~Dr. Edward Hallowell
CHADD Educator of the Year for 2010, Dr. Katherine Nell Mcneil, "Highly recommends" One Boy’s Struggle
“A very brave and moving memoir.” Pulitzer Prize winning journalist, Katherine Ellison, author of 'Buzz'.
"Gripping account of both the struggles and positive polarities of ADD written beautifully in a honest, open and courageous manner." David A. Crenshaw, Ph.D.
"Anyone with ADD or with friends, loved ones or colleagues with ADD will be informed and touched by Bryan’s book." Bryan Robinson Ph.D. author of 'The Art of Confident Living'
Thank you!
It is an honor to have written a book that is meaning so much and benefiting so many. It is my hope that one day ‘One Boy’s Struggle: A Memoir’ will be read by every teacher and parent, as well as read by every adult with ADHD. If you own a copy and have read it, please consider passing it on, loan it out to friends, a support group or donating it to your local library.
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