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Deliciously Sexy

May 11th, 2010 · 3 Comments · 01 My Thoughts

What do you long for?

What excites you?

Have you defined what you want, need and desire…

…in someone to love, hold and live with forevermore?

What is your innermost desire in another person – specific characteristics which stand above all others – do you know what they are? It’s important; believe me, it’s very, very important.

You will never know what you are looking for until you define it. You will never find what you are looking for until you give it a description. They say that if you don’t stand for something that you will fall for anything. It’s the same with finding a true to your heart friend and lover. If you don’t know, you may seek out nearly anyone with a nice smile, pleasant demeanor and perhaps a little flash that shows seemingly genuine interest. And, you will be had! What’s so wrong with that?

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In Love and Desire, Hopes and Dreams – My ADD mind has a Purpose

April 26th, 2010 · 5 Comments · 01 My Thoughts

I still remember the very first time I thought I was in love. I did not yet know what love was, but going back in my mind, journeying back all those years to when I was just a very young boy, I know now that it sure felt like love to me. I was in love with her from the first moment I saw her. She was a princess. She was a kind of supergirl. I was crazy for her and I was going crazy in my mind about her, but I never mentioned it to her. As a matter of fact I admired her from afar and avoided close contact with her at all costs.

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Photo shoot for new book

February 12th, 2010 · 33 Comments · 01 My Thoughts, 05 Wife supports her ADDer, 4 Men, 4 women, Adult ADHD Sexy

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Sorry I haven’t had the time to write as much as I would like lately. The new book has captured a lot more of my time than I thought it would and now that it is near completion, I really don’t have a clue what to write about at the moment. Hopefully, that’s just a phase? Have you finished a major project and then kind of wondered around a while wondering what to do next and it seems as though there’s nothing else to do? That’s kind of where I am at.

For the new book Joan and I wanted to include a few pictures for very specific places within it. You get to see a selection we are considering in this post. Please tell us which one’s you like best. We want you to have a part in this book. Next week we reveal the completed cover, which was accomplished with the assistance of members’ suggestions!

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Referral Contest for New Book

January 8th, 2010 · 1 Comment · 01 My Thoughts

We have had some great, helpful books given away by fantastic authors over the last year, Nancy Ratey, Gina Pera, Bryan Robinson, Barbara Sher, Lara Honos-Webb, Nancy Irwin and Kenneth Kay. Thank you very much to each of these authors for offering their autographed books to our ADDer World ADHD Social Network members! There are more to come, but first…

To start off 2010 I am giving away 13 signed copies of my new book Adult ADHD can be Sexy!

I am very, very happy and proud of my new book which will be released this coming summer! This isn’t your usual book about ADHD and it is not designed for beginners to the world of ADHD! However, if you have any interest at all in relationships, love and intimacy in connection with ADHD, this is a book I believe you will enjoy and get something special out of!

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Interview – Relationships and 2010 another New Year!

December 31st, 2009 · 2 Comments · 01 My Thoughts, Adult ADHD Sexy

The other day I came across an interview I did for ADD.about.com in August 2008, not too long after I published my first book. Keath Low conducted the interview; she is the caring and wonderful guide to ADD for About.com. Keath wanted this interview to focus on peer relationships. After re-reading this interview I contacted Keath and asked her if I could re-post it. The reason is because in 2010 I will be publishing my next book Adult ADHD can be Sexy, this new book is about relationships, love, intimacy and ADHD! I have discovered that there is nothing I enjoy writing about more. Relationships have had profound effects on my life and to be clear I have made a lot of mistakes within relationships, heartbreaks that have lived alive and well within me years after relationships ended or went awry.

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Adult ADHD can be Sexy

November 24th, 2009 · 15 Comments · Love

New Book in 2010

I think you’re going to enjoy this book!

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~Bryan

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Top Ten 10 Do and Don’t with your ADD ADHD partner

November 8th, 2009 · 20 Comments · 01 My Thoughts, 4 Men, 4 women, Love

Here’s a top ten list I have put together of things to do and NOT do with your ADHD partner:

Do not:

  1. Do not play parent (motherly or fatherly)
  2. Do not take on the sole responsibility of trying to correct his or her behavior
  3. Do not blame every aspect of the relationship which might be damaged on his or her ADHD
  4. Do not make statements which are demeaning with the hope that it will spark his or her attention that they must make corrective efforts.
  5. Do not say things like: “This is the right way to do this or that.” Or “That’s not the way things should be done.”
  6. Do not take his or her hyper focusing on projects or people, places or things personally. Hyper focusing is not about your relationship directly or indirectly, it’s a difficult to control or much less, predict, trait of ADHD.
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Who doesn’t want to fall in love forever?

October 20th, 2009 · 17 Comments · 01 My Thoughts, Love

Just a fantasy?

Who doesn’t want to fall in love forever? Who doesn’t want to meet that perfect person, that person who makes us feel whole, that person who makes us feel wonderful and beautiful?

Who doesn’t want to meet that person, you know who I am talking about, that person who understands who we are inside, who understands our ways of doing things, who understands the whys, the how’s and the frustrations, the temptations and the never ending contemplations?!

Who doesn’t? Who doesn’t want to meet that perfect, accepting person?

Out there, in the word, somewhere, that person is there, looking too, for acceptance, understanding and compassion, sympathy and reliability. We believe that, we have to - if we don’t – what else is there? Nothing else seems to matter, but then…

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How To Make People Like You

September 26th, 2009 · 13 Comments · 01 My Thoughts

 

The key to making people like you is to be open, honest and forthcoming. Improve one’s self, be nice, caring and forgiving.

Seems like solid advice and to a degree I am sure it is correct, it is the code I live by, but the reality is that not everyone is going to like us. No, no matter how lovable and adorable, or perhaps cool we may be. Actually, statistics indicate that some people are in fact predisposed to not like us and if we spend our time trying to make them like us, we may be wasting a lot of our time. As ADDers, we tend to waste too much time already.

On the radio yesterday, I listened to someone give these statistics:

  • 25% of people are predisposed to like you
  • 25% of people lean towards liking you and could be convinced to like you
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Making Friends and Building Relationships – Part 1

September 19th, 2007 · 3 Comments · 01 My Thoughts

Finding friends, good friends and keeping friends can be a challenge for just about anyone and for Adders this challenge can be overwhelming and baffling—oftentimes depressing and demoralizing! I speak from an immense amount of experience growing up with undiagnosed ADD. In my first 20 or so years of life I had maybe 4 total friends and only two of those friends could be called ‘close friends’, or ‘real’ friends. I wanted friends, I enjoyed being around others, but I would always say or do something that would turn people off towards me and I just didn’t know what it was. I have learned some of the answers and there was one I could identify with above the rest.

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