Motivational and inspirational writer, Bryan Hutchinson is the author of several books about life with ADHD including the highly acclaimed, best selling "One Boy′s Struggle: A Memoir" and the author of the hilarious eBook that went viral "10 Things I Hate about ADHD"

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Put a Stop to the Blame Game

Put a Stop to the Blame Game
on: April 10, 2011 by: Bryan Hutchinson 5 Comments , , , , ...

Stop the blaming! As humans we like to blame things, it’s natural and normal. We like to put blame somewhere, anywhere, somehow, someway. We don’t always do it consciously or on purpose, we just do it. It’s not our fault, whatever that is which is making us use the blame game. Here’s some common blaming: It’s the system, its ADHD, it’s the people in the group over there and on and on… – Ultimately, everything is out of our personal control and it is not our fault! The thing about blaming, even if it is ‘justified’ is that it never ends and blamers never truly get better or improve. They don’t have to, they’ve got something or someone to blame. They don’t improve and you know it. It’s not their fault, after all. Okay, swallow hard. I am not saying anything is anyone’s fault, breathe. Now, explore for a moment […]

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Put a Stop to the Blame Game

Put a Stop to the Blame Game
on: April 10, 2011 by: Bryan Hutchinson 5 Comments , , , , ...

Stop the blaming! As humans we like to blame things, it’s natural and normal. We like to put blame somewhere, anywhere, somehow, someway. We don’t always do it consciously or on purpose, we just do it. It’s not our fault, whatever that is which is making us use the blame game. Here’s some common blaming: It’s the system, its ADHD, it’s the people in the group over there and on and on… – Ultimately, everything is out of our personal control and it is not our fault! The thing about blaming, even if it is ‘justified’ is that it never ends and blamers never truly get better or improve. They don’t have to, they’ve got something or someone to blame. They don’t improve and you know it. It’s not their fault, after all. Okay, swallow hard. I am not saying anything is anyone’s fault, breathe. Now, explore for a moment […]

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The Shame Factor and ADHD

The Shame Factor and ADHD
on: January 6, 2011 by: Bryan Hutchinson 25 Comments , , , , ...

The first rule of shame is not to talk about shame. I think a lot of us believe this unspoken rule. We may also believe that shame is weak, shame is admitting to being lesser than others and shame isn’t acceptable. Shame is something to be kept hidden in the dark. I think shame relates well to ADHD, because a common approach to shame is to state to someone ‘to pull it together’ or ‘quit feeling sorry for yourself’, and those of you familiar with ADHD know full well that neither of those two statements are effective, much less realistic. I speak from experience here, so please take what I am about to write from someone who’s been there and done that, nothing more. Please read this with caution, or if you are highly susceptible to triggers, please consider if this is the right time to read about this topic. The interesting […]

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