Motivational and inspirational writer, Bryan Hutchinson is the author of several books about life with ADHD including the highly acclaimed, best selling "One Boy′s Struggle: A Memoir" and the author of the hilarious eBook that went viral "10 Things I Hate about ADHD"

May 2009

Motivation Willpower ADHD

Motivation Willpower ADHD

  I used to consider one of my biggest flaws and worst character traits, or better said – lack thereof, was that I did not have any willpower.  They seemed to possess some secret power that I had somehow missed out on. I have willpower, but like most people with ADHD I just did not know how to access it and this lead to a certain kind of frustration, which ran painfully deep. It started early, at a very young age. I grew up with a belief that willpower did not exist for me. It was so obvious to me that I lacked something (I didn’t know what it was called way back then) that I could see whatever it was so clearly in others. As a kid I was in awe of classmates who could set their mind to doing an assignment and just do it. They seemed to possess some secret power that I had […]

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Sex Love Marriage Affairs and ADHD

Sex Love Marriage Affairs and ADHD

Why does it seem that too many people with ADHD come to a point in their relationship that they seek an affair, or simply find themselves in the midst of overly fantasizing about having an affair? This doesn’t apply to everyone and yet, there seems to be a growing number of mid-aged ADDers fooling around while married or in a long term relationship. What gives? It seemed like a good relationship. Yes, it had some ups and downs, what relationship doesn’t? I have a theory about some affairs and people with ADHD. Actually, I have several theories, but in this post I am going to try to keep it to just one of them. Remember though, it’s just my theory and, like I said, it doesn’t cover every affair. This particular theory deals with late bloomers. Many of us with ADHD are late bloomers, including some that are early diagnosed […]

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WIN Nancy Ratey’s Book The Disorganized Mind Autographed Hardback Edition

WIN Nancy Ratey’s Book The Disorganized Mind Autographed Hardback Edition

Win a Free Autographed Copy of Nancy Ratey’s The Disorganized Mind on our  ADDer World ADHD Social Network  Nancy has generously sent ADDer World a personally signed copy of her book for the ADDer World giveaway drawing contest! You can read more about her on her website NancyRatey.com and I reviewed her book here. Nancy is also a member of our ADDer World ADHD Social Network, you can check out her page there and also, if you like, leave her a little ‘hello‘ comment. Thank you Nancy!

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Embracing Me and ADHD

Embracing Me and ADHD

I had a choice. I made that choice. I would embrace my ADHD or I would fight it. It may seem like an easy choice, but anyone who has ADHD can tell you, it’s not. Even so, it seems like it would be a clear yes or no. What’s the difference between fighting it and embracing it? For me, fighting ADHD means to search for a cure outside of one’s self – something to permanently solve the reality of ADHD symptoms. It seems to me, fighting ADHD in search of a cure is akin to searching for that magic answer which will cure the world of all evils.  Embracing ADHD means, at least to me, to look at the symptoms and say okay, you are a part of me and I will find a way to make you work for me and not against me. By doing this I can look upon therapy and other […]

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Are You Sure You Have ADHD? Revisited.

Are You Sure You Have ADHD? Revisited.

Most people who see me and are generally around me on a regular day, usually have no idea that I have ADHD (ADD). Or, for that matter, realize I am dealing with anything out of the ordinary. That is, unless they have read about me online, someone told them or read my book, I told them – stuff like that. It hasn’t always been that way.

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Is Sex important to someone with ADHD?

Is Sex important to someone with ADHD?

Not really. Physical sex that is, it is nearly irrelevant. You wouldn’t think so, because, well, we probably think of sex more than we think of anything else. However, we don’t think of physical sex that much, not in that way. Do you doubt me? Then read on. Our inherent definition of sex is entirely different than what we think sex should be. I mean to say that what marketers, advertisers and movies, TV and magazines show us what sex should be, isn’t what we define sex to be.  And you know what – sex in of itself is uninspiring for someone with ADHD, and yet, for someone who doesn’t have ADHD, I have heard tell that that having sex, physically and emotionally, with someone who has ADHD can be the best sexual experience they have ever had, the first few times, that is. Have you heard this too? I am […]

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We can be worthy, we can be proud! Don’t let anyone tell you any different!

We can be worthy, we can be proud! Don’t let anyone tell you any different!

I write from a simple, but, powerful premise: We all have good within us and we all can improve! Together we can overcome our struggles and achieve our goals. I believe we all have something inside of us that drives us forward, something that inherently lets us know that tomorrow is worth it – we might not always be convinced of this, we might not always demonstrate it, but, I believe it is there, within each and every one of us! I know full well that we face difficulties and certain times can be extremely difficult. However, with proper treatment and support we can overcome. From experience, I can tell you that living in a perpetual belief that there is no hope and using our energy to explain why there is no hope, well, creates a hopeless situation for our self. Find me a person who tells you he can’t […]

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Acting Mature or Being Mature

Acting Mature or Being Mature

Acting mature and being mature are two different things. To me ‘acting’ mature, is usually, well, just an act. I meet a lot of people with ADHD, from all around the world, from every level of society, and most have something in common, which I think isn’t really touched on that much, or, enough: We tend to believe that we do not act mature enough. I’ve been there and I’ve done that too. In my opinion ADDers are far more mature than most people I meet at any level: We are concerned, sympathetic, empathetic and resourceful, have a fair amount of common sense and find ways to make it when the odds are against us! We can negotiate, bargain and find a way when no way is clear. Every ADDer I have met wants to improve them self, tend to admit, and take responsibility for, mistakes and seek assistance. I have yet to meet one of us who has […]

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Physically Punishing Children – Slap ’em?

Physically Punishing Children – Slap ’em?

Yesterday I was in a downtown Frankfurt shopping mall when I saw a small crying kid get slapped in the mouth by his mother in an effort to get him to stop crying. She hit him so hard and it was so sudden that Joan and I stared at each other as if we were in some kind of weird movie. Thankfully, this incident immediately got the attention of a nearby security guard too. Predictably, the kid started crying more and when it seemed as though the mother was ready to try again the security guard stepped up to her, they talked and she left the mall with her small child in a huff of indignation. It seems to me that there are parents out there who are confused as to how to get their children under reasonable control and instead lash out with physical punishment. If, like with this person I told […]

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WIN a free autographed copy of Is it You, Me or Adult ADD by Gina Pera

WIN a free autographed copy of Is it You, Me or Adult ADD by Gina Pera

We are kicking off our new ADDer World ADHD Social Network contests with Gina Pera’s Is it You, Me, or Adult A.D.D. Gina Pera has generously agreed to provide a personally signed copy of her book for ADDer World! You can read more about her book on her website www.adhdrollercoaster.org and I reviewed her book here. Member’s names will be put into a box and randomly selected to choose the winner. How to get your name in the box: 1) Write a blog post, or, forum post, also replying to any blog or forum post will be considered an entry into the drawing box. This means that each time you do any of the above your name will be placed into the drawing box, yes, multiple times; however, it only takes one entry to win and only one entry can win! The more your name is in the box, the better your […]

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