The power of positive thinking and redirection can overcome the weariest of hearts and the most depressed of souls. Hurt, pain, sorrow and guilt can all be overcome.
Blame, finger pointing, complaining and remorse are aspects of a mind in pain and although these actions and emotions have their place in the world that does not mean that they are helpful or productive. On the contrary, these actions and emotions cause harm and enhance hurt and pain.
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You been robbed
You been used
You been crucified and
You been abused
You been sacrificen and
Now you’re confused
Ain’t it the truth ….
Bon Jovi-“little bit of soul.”
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Nobody here on earth knows what you are going through better than you do. Trials and the tribulations and the crosses which you bear, are yours and yours alone. Nobody else wants them, they don’t want to hear of them, and usually, others are confused by what you are going through anyway.
The truth is: you are not alone, but the feelings, those oh so powerful feelings, give one a feeling of aloneness and that nobody cares. Negative always will reinforce the negative and negatives will always attract more negative. LOA. That’s the way it is and always has been. The only way to overcome negative feelings and their powerful hold on you is to find something which is even more powerful—the power of positive thinking!
However, there is a middle step which must come first before one’s thinking can change. The will to change or the ‘want’ to change? Wanting creates the willing. Nobody is truly empowered by negativity, so the want is always there. It is the ‘how’ that is so confusing. Without knowledge of ‘how’, it is very difficult to build the willpower to change. It is similar to getting in the car and wanting to drive to a destination, but, not knowing where the destination is and you have no map to help you choose where to go. Why drive then? This brings on frustration and further develops negativity.
So how do you create willpower? The first and most important step is to identify what is causing you to be so negative. What is hurting you? Why are those negative feelings there in the first place? What happened to cause them? Do you have an undiagnosed or diagnosed disorder such as ADD or ADHD? Or do you have something which has happened to you in your past or a situation you have never fully understood and never gotten over? It can be many things together. Once you identify where the negativity and hurt is coming from and why it is there you will become empowered to overcome! Knowledge is the key to overcoming. Just thinking or hoping you will overcome whatever is ailing you, usually doesn’t work and further failure puts you even deeper into the grip of negativity. Maybe you can just ignore it—whatever that is bothering you—just get over it or ignore it! No, I don’t think so. Your feelings have a purpose; they might not be convenient or understood by others around you or even yourself, but they are still valid. Would you blow out your only candle if you were in a deep, dark cave? I didn’t think so.
Once you discover the origination, and, or, reason for your feelings, you can then, and only then, come to an understanding of what and why something is bothering you and causing you to have such dismay. Therapy is a good step in this process…. More to come….
~Bryan
