Motivational and inspirational writer, Bryan Hutchinson is the author of several books about life with ADHD including the highly acclaimed, best selling "One Boy′s Struggle: A Memoir" and the author of the hilarious eBook that went viral "10 Things I Hate about ADHD"

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Having ADHD Justifies a Negative Attitude!

Having ADHD Justifies a Negative Attitude!
on: January 21, 2012 by: Bryan Hutchinson 16 Comments , , , , ...

But is it helpful? Does negativity help someone gain friends? Is it a likable characteristic or make a person enjoyable to be around? Does it help one find a job or retain a job and become someone who is respected and admired? . I believe that our attitude is within our control and can be modified. . (Disclaimer: what follows is only my opinion, read it at your own risk. Take it or leave it as any reader sees fit. I have the greatest respect for those suffering from co-morbid conditions such as ODD or Bipolar and this post does not encompass co-morbid conditions.). There are many justifications for someone with ADHD to have a negative attitude: Considering repeated mistakes, mental, impulsive blunders, speaking one’s mind when one shouldn’t and oh, I almost forgot: forgetfulness. And much, much more depending on how much ADHD affects someone. . Not everyone falls […]

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Choose Friends Wisely! Here’s How and Why

Choose Friends Wisely! Here’s How and Why
on: January 4, 2012 by: Bryan Hutchinson 3 Comments , , , , ...

It’s wonderful to have friends, especially those who encourage us to be the best that we can be. However, it’s also important to remember that we tend to emulate the people we are around the most. If we’ve fallen into a pessimistic, negative or downbeat group, then perhaps we need to adjust our friendships, especially if we want to move on to happier horizons. Friendships are incredibly important. Therefore: Choose friends wisely. If you truly want to be happy, my experience is to choose friends that encourage and support you, have an optimistic nature and like you for who you are and who you are becoming. Consider the direction you are going and the direction you want to go, and then hang around and befriend people that are as you would like to become. As they say, if you want to be happy, surround yourself with happy people, because they […]

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Does Positive Thinking Work?

Does Positive Thinking Work?
on: November 13, 2010 by: Bryan Hutchinson 15 Comments , , , , ...

In the last few years I have read thousands of emails from readers all over the world. Many love what I have written and thank me for going out on a ‘limb’ to share my life experiences. You, the readers are my driving source for writing, sharing and you inspire me to keep on keeping on, to continue sharing – it’s a very positive, uplifting and learning experience each time I read a letter or email from someone that has been touched by my writing. And what’s just as special is our ADDer World Social Network is nearing 2000 members! Originally, I had foreseen a couple dozen members of blog readers where we could get together and communicate a bit easier. Seems I am not the only one interested in finding a positive outlook, no, not by far and that’s awesome! Together we are never alone, no, never alone and […]

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How To Make People Like You

How To Make People Like You
on: September 26, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 22 Comments , , , , ...

  The key to making people like you is to be open, honest and forthcoming. Improve one’s self, be nice, caring and forgiving. Seems like solid advice and to a degree I am sure it is correct, it is the code I live by, but the reality is that not everyone is going to like us. No, no matter how lovable and adorable, or perhaps cool we may be. Actually, statistics indicate that some people are in fact predisposed to not like us and if we spend our time trying to make them like us, we may be wasting a lot of our time. As ADDers, we tend to waste too much time already. On the radio yesterday, I listened to someone give these statistics: 25% of people are predisposed to like you 25% of people lean towards liking you and could be convinced to like you 25% of people are predisposed not to like you, could be convinced, but it would be […]

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ADHD friends with Gifts and Benefits!

ADHD friends with Gifts and Benefits!
on: June 4, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 16 Comments , , , , ...

Yeah, I wrote that title. Yeah, I said it! What are you going to do about it? I will tell you what you might do about it. I said might, because, it is up to you and this exercise is about choice. Exercise? … But first… I was reading a very nice posting by Anna on our ADDer World ADHD Social Network today and she got me thinking about something. She asked: “Is there a happy ending for people with ADD/HD?” She continued and wrote: “I thought that having a medicine and reading and learning would mean there was a cure and if I followed the yellow brick road I’d arrive where everyone else in the world already is, the city called “Normal”. I thought it meant I’d be “normal”, like everyone else and that I’d fit right in and be considered a citizen and at long last I would belong.” […]

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Making Friends and Building Relationships – Part 1

Making Friends and Building Relationships – Part 1
on: September 19, 2007 by: Bryan Hutchinson 3 Comments , , , , ...

Finding friends, good friends and keeping friends can be a challenge for just about anyone and for Adders this challenge can be overwhelming and baffling—oftentimes depressing and demoralizing! I speak from an immense amount of experience growing up with undiagnosed ADD. In my first 20 or so years of life I had maybe 4 total friends and only two of those friends could be called ‘close friends’, or ‘real’ friends. I wanted friends, I enjoyed being around others, but I would always say or do something that would turn people off towards me and I just didn’t know what it was. I have learned some of the answers and there was one I could identify with above the rest.

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