Motivational and inspirational writer, Bryan Hutchinson is the author of several books about life with ADHD including the highly acclaimed, best selling "One Boy′s Struggle: A Memoir" and the author of the hilarious eBook that went viral "10 Things I Hate about ADHD"

The Real Problem with ADHD and Success and Happiness

Have you noticed that ADHD and Success and Happiness are not synonymous?

Why aren’t they?

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Between the above parentheses is all the space allotted to you for giving an explanation as to why ADHD and Success and happiness are not synonymous!  Doesn’t seem like that is a fair enough amount of space? Then read on.

Since we all love rules so much, here are some rules for this exercise:

1st: The first rule is that you may only go by your personal definition of success and happiness. (If you don’t have one, that could pose as a problem, but perhaps this assignment will free you enough to create your very own, personal definition.)

2nd: The very important second rule is that you may not identify success and happiness with what others would have you identify them with or as. This means you may not use rules (this rule is the exception), regulations, standards, expected norms, what teachers have told you, what partners or family members want from you, or expect from you, and any friend’s good advice or expectations are out the window for this exercise too. Forget about all types of peer pressure, especially that which is perceived from society, or any other messages revolutionists may be trying to get across to you (including me), for better or worse. (This rule is absolutely essential, before writing anything down, remember to consider this rule in all its meaning! Take a moment to read it again carefully, because it actually requires a great deal.)

3rd: The third rule for this exercise is that you may not allow guilt, regret or missed expectations to define your answer.

I know, the rules kind of stink because we know all too well what is left to choose from, but hopefully they will help.

Now that we have the rules explained, take a few moments to consider them very closely.  If you can still come up with specific reasons as to why ADHD and Success and Happiness are not, or should not be synonymous (again, with very, very careful consideration of the rules), then you may have finally discovered what it is that is really holding you back!

Far too many of us tend to put ahead of ourselves what others want or need, or what we perceive is expected of us from society etc. And, even if we do consider all that stuff, it doesn’t mean we address any of it, but it may mean something else entirely – and that my dear friends, is where I am trying to get you to venture.

So, you’ve got the question and the rules? Good, then give it a shot!

– You might be surprised!


*The above (blank) parentheses are just a distraction. Also, I am not saying here that ADHD, Success and Happiness are, or should be, synonymous. And, I am not saying they shouldn’t be. However, I am saying something that I believe is important, can you figure it out?