It’s true that with acceptance for who we are, and all which that encompasses, can we learn, overcome and thrive to achieve whatever kind of wonderful is for us. Far too often I read or hear people with ADHD berating themselves, putting themselves down and cursing ADHD, which is as much a part of who they are as anything else. Now, I am not saying ADHD doesn’t give us reasons to be ticked off, upset and feel dejected. Oh, it clearly does! But, you know what? No amount of self-deprecation will take ADHD away or force one’s self to be better or different or, heaven forbid, normal. It’s somewhat along the lines of a teacher scolding a child with ADHD with the intent that he can make the child realize that she is just lazy and, if she wants to enough, she can be normal and function in normal ‘accepted’ ways.
Entries Tagged as 'success'
With Acceptance We Can Overcome and Achieve
July 5th, 2010 · 2 Comments · 01 My Thoughts
Tags: Acceptance · achieve · add · ADHD · anger · awesome · child · Choice · control · cursing · deception · kind · mind · overcome · part · resentment · success
The Real Problem with ADHD and Success and Happiness
April 6th, 2010 · 6 Comments · 01 My Thoughts
Have you noticed that ADHD and Success and Happiness are not synonymous?
Why aren’t they?
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Between the above parentheses is all the space allotted to you for giving an explanation as to why ADHD and Success and happiness are not synonymous! Doesn’t seem like that is a fair enough amount of space? Then read on.
Since we all love rules so much, here are some rules for this exercise:
1st: The first rule is that you may only go by your personal definition of success and happiness. (If you don’t have one, that could pose as a problem, but perhaps this assignment will free you enough to create your very own, personal definition.)
Tags: add · ADHD · happiness · positivity · quiz · regulations · rules · society · success · test
Just another Call to Arms! Adult ADHD
April 1st, 2010 · 6 Comments · 01 My Thoughts
Have you noticed that adult ADHD is making more news lately? As a matter of fact I just read that approximately 65% of children with ADHD will grow into adults with ADHD, or rather ADD. I personally suspect that the percentage is much higher. It’s impossible to know how many adults are wondering around undiagnosed, but it’s estimated to be in the millions. I was diagnosed when I was 37 and in recent years I have met a remarkable number of adults diagnosed at a later age, some cases much later. This of course lends to the belief that ADHD isn’t real. How can so many people have it? I don’t know, but we do.
Tags: adult add · adult ADHD · advantage · assistance · atlas · benefit · fraud · happiness · life · myth · success · survival
What is achievement – what is success – what do these things mean to someone like you or me, with ADHD?
March 19th, 2010 · 22 Comments · 01 My Thoughts, 4 Men, 4 women
Have you ever wondered about what success means to you? I mean, what it really means? Not just the definition, but rather what it feels like to be successful, to achieve something of significant relevance to you? I think for people with ADHD, like me and maybe you, the very word and the meaning of success is alien. We have read about it and heard about it and yet, rarely have we identified with it.
Are you successful?
If that seems like a loaded question, it’s not, but I think to a lot of us, it seems that there may be some hidden implication within the question itself. If you say yes, then you are lying and displaying conceitedness! How dare you! Bow your head in proper shame. That’s not the voice from someone else; as a matter of fact it’s not a voice at all. It’s a perception that many of us have. It’s a rather solid perception too, because without hesitation we can back it up with a long list of failures that will cut us to the quick faster than we can even think. But, there’s more to it.
Tags: accomplish · achieve · add · ADHD · adult add · adult ADHD · happiness · hope · I can · learn · pride · proud · strive · success · Treatment
Have you ever wanted to be… better than you are?
November 21st, 2009 · 5 Comments · 01 My Thoughts
What would it be like to scale the highest mountain?
What would it be like to catch the rose before the curtains close?
What would it be like to stand on the podium in triumph and listen to the crowd adore your accomplishment, to be applauding you?
Yes, you!
What would it be like?
Can you hear them?
Listen, listen closely.
What would it be like to come home after a successful day, not having made too many mistakes, not having forgotten an appointment, not having been chastised or punished?
What would it be like to sit down, open your books and diligently work on your homework and finish it too?
Listen, listen closely.
Can you hear them now?
Take a moment, relax, and cut the chatter in your mind, focus.
Tags: add · ADHD · Better · crowd pleasing · homework · hope · judgement · listen · punishment · stigma · success · work
What is ADHD?
September 19th, 2009 · 19 Comments · 01 My Thoughts
When one starts writing an online blog, there should be a box to click that asks us to agree to the fact that once you start a blog there comes with it great responsibility, especially when you are writing about an issue that is quickly becoming one of the most important issues of our time: ADHD! The reality is that most people in society as a whole do not know what ADHD is or how it truly affects people with it. Bloggers are helping clarify our personal realities with ADHD by sharing experiences.
Inferiority, Jealousy, Envy and Wanting – The Burdens of ADHD
April 14th, 2009 · 5 Comments · 01 My Thoughts, 02 My thoughts Positive, ADDer book reviews
It’s not something we want to talk about, it’s not something we want to admit and it is clearly something we are ashamed of. And yet, as much as we already understand our mistakes, our failures and our impulsive mishaps we do it more and more, to the point from which we see no return.
ADHD are symptoms of a magnitude and force which no one, and I mean, no one, who does not have ADHD can truly empathize with, because, no matter how well they understand our symptoms and can explain them with detailed clarity, they do not live with them as part of their self-internal life force. And, as much as each of us relates so well with each other that have ADHD, there are even differences between us that elude our recognition – no matter how familiar we are with each other, and, we are, remarkably, naturally familiar with each other. This is the reason that our personal stories and our personal insights help each other so much.
Tags: bryan robinson phd · confident living · failure · success · therapy
Michael Phelps’ ADHD Hyper Focus Concentration Helps Win Gold Medal in Beijing!
August 10th, 2008 · 31 Comments · 01 My Thoughts, 02 My thoughts Positive, Positive Sides of ADD
“Single-Minded Focus”
Michael Phelps won the Gold Medal in his first swim in Beijing! There seems to be some confusion and wonder at how and why Michael Phelps was able to overcome so many odds to not break under so much mental pressure. Michael is described in countless articles to have laser like focus on his swimming and single mindedness on being the best. His concentration has even been described as other-worldly. Yes, Michael has the body makeup of a perfect swimming machine, but in competition it is always the mental aspect which allows someone to step above the rest – in Michael’s case, way above the rest – domination.
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