Motivational and inspirational writer, Bryan Hutchinson is the author of several books about life with ADHD including the highly acclaimed, best selling "One Boy′s Struggle: A Memoir" and the author of the hilarious eBook that went viral "10 Things I Hate about ADHD"

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Adult ADHD can be Sexy

Adult ADHD can be Sexy

New Book in 2010 I think you’re going to enjoy this book! Please feel free to subscribe to the email updates to be notified when published! ~Bryan

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Because it is boring!

Because it is boring!

Have you ever shown brilliance and extraordinary talent and yet less talented peers passed you in the long run? In any endeavor, sports, dating, work and even tinkering in a hobby with the hopes of accomplishing anything, there is nothing more important than mastering basics and fundamentals. Undoubtedly, you’ve heard this before, but do you really know what this means – especially in the context of ADD and ADHD? You can have incredible talent mixed with ADHD risk taking and impulsivity and you can do absolutely amazing things which blow the minds of any spectators, but at the end of the day, most times you will fall short of your desired outcome, you will lose! You will fall flat on your face. And, it will hurt! Sorry, I know that is painful to read, but you and me, we know it’s true. Don’t we? It’s confusing, it is frustrating and it […]

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Have you ever wanted to be… better than you are?

Have you ever wanted to be… better than you are?

What would it be like to scale the highest mountain? What would it be like to catch the rose before the curtains close? What would it be like to stand on the podium in triumph and listen to the crowd adore your accomplishment, to be applauding you? Yes, you! What would it be like? Can you hear them? Listen, listen closely. What would it be like to come home after a successful day, not having made too many mistakes, not having forgotten an appointment, not having been chastised or punished? What would it be like to sit down, open your books and diligently work on your homework and finish it too? Listen, listen closely. Can you hear them now? Take a moment, relax, and cut the chatter in your mind, focus. You can hear them. I know you can. You’re just lazy, you’re just not interested enough. You’re just no good for […]

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ADHD Diagnosis and Treatment is Imperative for Relationships and Self!

ADHD Diagnosis and Treatment is Imperative for Relationships and Self!

I have written posts indicating that ADHD is not always the culprit in a broken relationship. I sincerely do not believe everything and anything is the fault, or should be blamed on an ADHD partner. However, with that said: ADHD can have devastating effects on relationships. I don’t think that’s a secret. Still, if anyone with ADHD is in a relationship and has avoided seeking help or proper treatment, or has been uncertain if doing so will help, then my best suggestion is to seek treatment because, yes, your ADHD could certainly be the cause of relationship hardships, or it could be complicating an otherwise beautiful, worth-it relationship. Diagnosis with proper treatment will not only help make relationships better and more fulfilling, but proper treatment can make one’s entire life more rewarding and satisfying. Diagnosis with proper treatment equals more out of life! It really does. Diagnosis and treatment are not magic wands though. Treatment still involves a lot […]

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If ADHD were fully controllable then it wouldn’t be ADHD

If ADHD were fully controllable then it wouldn’t be ADHD

In relationships there’s a lot of give and take. You give some, you take some and you give some more. It’s a simple and necessary principle of reciprocation. The above sentence could just about start out any relationship book, but it’s not a very good starting point for a book about ADHD, love, relationships and sex – you know, together. ADHD brings something to a relationship which is unpredictable, frustrating and exciting and, even a bit intimidating from time to time. I think it is a good guess that most people would enjoy stability in their relationship, with someone who is dependable, reliable and in this way somewhat predictable. However, although people with ADHD can be dependable and reliable to a degree, they can hardly be predictable, at least not from month to month and especially not from year to year. What do I mean? Our interests are constantly changing. […]

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Top Ten 10 Do and Don’t with your ADD ADHD partner

Top Ten 10 Do and Don’t with your ADD ADHD partner

Here’s a top ten list I have put together of things to do and NOT do with your ADHD partner: Do not: Do not play parent (motherly or fatherly) Do not take on the sole responsibility of trying to correct his or her behavior Do not blame every aspect of the relationship which might be damaged on his or her ADHD Do not make statements which are demeaning with the hope that it will spark his or her attention that they must make corrective efforts. Do not say things like: “This is the right way to do this or that.” Or “That’s not the way things should be done.” Do not take his or her hyper focusing on projects or people, places or things personally. Hyper focusing is not about your relationship directly or indirectly, it’s a difficult to control or much less, predict, trait of ADHD. Do not insist […]

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Love and ADHD a Bittersweet Reality

Love and ADHD a Bittersweet Reality

To be loved. Can I be loved? Am I lovable? Have you ever asked those questions of yourself? Have you ever stayed up nights, wondering why – why can’t I be loved? ADHD often seems like a bittersweet reality. Many of us are creative, we are exciting and we can find things to do when the rest of those around us are bored out of their minds and yet, and this is the part that hurts, no matter how exciting we may be, how much we can liven up a boring moment for others, or how creative we may be, we all too often still feel lonely. So lonely, and then it comes, like a shadow from the dark corner, it spreads so slowly, then wraps itself around us, at first it feels warm and comforting, but it is not an afterglow, it is sadness, which after time may become misery. […]

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Lost Friends and Lost Lovers and Life Thereafter

Lost Friends and Lost Lovers and Life Thereafter

Have you ever had relationships, so strong, so powerful, and ever so meaningful, that after that special person, or people, left, parts of yourself left too? There are times when you can still feel them nearby, as if they are right there – you can almost touch them, but only, only, almost – fleetingly, across the sky, like a shooting star or a floating cloud. When we are alone, unexpectedly, we may start thinking about them for no reason at all and, we miss them so deeply, so much it hurts ever so painfully, it brings tears to our eyes and we wonder why – ? Just this topic alone, it brings up their memories so vividly. Sometimes it can be such happy moments, the sun shining, laughing, playing, running the streets and goofing off, a tender first kiss or a special word of support and, in another moment the memory can […]

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Breaking Up can be The Right Thing to do

Breaking Up can be The Right Thing to do

Sometimes a relationship needs to end In today’s world it seems we are obsessed with couples counseling, relationship solutions and even medication that will make a partner behave better for the needs of another. Don’t get me wrong, I am all for improving relationships and finding the middle of the road that may help two people get their spark back, and recover long lost reasons for being together in the first place. And yet, there could come a point when we realize it just isn’t meant to be and we lose valuable time not admitting this. I know, I have done it and I had a significant amount of emotional and mental investment, which I did not want to give up on. In the end it was the only solution that really, truly worked. To end it. It was the right decision, although one of the most painful and exhausting I have ever made. Today I […]

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ADHD and Narcissism

ADHD and Narcissism

  People with ADHD have enough problems without being compared to evil tyrants. There are few things which upset me more than when someone with ADHD is called narcissistic. I compare the term closer to a curse word more than anything else when used to describe someone with ADHD. Several rulers of the past who sought world domination are often described as the embodiment of narcissism. I agree with that, I go a step further and hazard to believe that they may have had narcissistic personality disorder, among other issues. We also tend to think of such rulers as evil, and why not, they utterly destroyed lives and ways of living. They deserved such terms; they earned them in various horrible, deceitful ways. Although narcissism at times seems an accurate description of some of our behaviors to the blind eye of the uninformed, the term tends to ignore the symptoms of, and our realities with, ADHD, and […]

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