Motivational and inspirational writer, Bryan Hutchinson is the author of several books about life with ADHD including the highly acclaimed, best selling "One Boy′s Struggle: A Memoir" and the author of the hilarious eBook that went viral "10 Things I Hate about ADHD"

01 My Thoughts

If ADHD were fully controllable then it wouldn’t be ADHD

If ADHD were fully controllable then it wouldn’t be ADHD

In relationships there’s a lot of give and take. You give some, you take some and you give some more. It’s a simple and necessary principle of reciprocation. The above sentence could just about start out any relationship book, but it’s not a very good starting point for a book about ADHD, love, relationships and sex – you know, together. ADHD brings something to a relationship which is unpredictable, frustrating and exciting and, even a bit intimidating from time to time. I think it is a good guess that most people would enjoy stability in their relationship, with someone who is dependable, reliable and in this way somewhat predictable. However, although people with ADHD can be dependable and reliable to a degree, they can hardly be predictable, at least not from month to month and especially not from year to year. What do I mean? Our interests are constantly changing. […]

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Top Ten 10 Do and Don’t with your ADD ADHD partner

Top Ten 10 Do and Don’t with your ADD ADHD partner

Here’s a top ten list I have put together of things to do and NOT do with your ADHD partner: Do not: Do not play parent (motherly or fatherly) Do not take on the sole responsibility of trying to correct his or her behavior Do not blame every aspect of the relationship which might be damaged on his or her ADHD Do not make statements which are demeaning with the hope that it will spark his or her attention that they must make corrective efforts. Do not say things like: “This is the right way to do this or that.” Or “That’s not the way things should be done.” Do not take his or her hyper focusing on projects or people, places or things personally. Hyper focusing is not about your relationship directly or indirectly, it’s a difficult to control or much less, predict, trait of ADHD. Do not insist […]

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Love and ADHD a Bittersweet Reality

Love and ADHD a Bittersweet Reality

To be loved. Can I be loved? Am I lovable? Have you ever asked those questions of yourself? Have you ever stayed up nights, wondering why – why can’t I be loved? ADHD often seems like a bittersweet reality. Many of us are creative, we are exciting and we can find things to do when the rest of those around us are bored out of their minds and yet, and this is the part that hurts, no matter how exciting we may be, how much we can liven up a boring moment for others, or how creative we may be, we all too often still feel lonely. So lonely, and then it comes, like a shadow from the dark corner, it spreads so slowly, then wraps itself around us, at first it feels warm and comforting, but it is not an afterglow, it is sadness, which after time may become misery. […]

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Lost Friends and Lost Lovers and Life Thereafter

Lost Friends and Lost Lovers and Life Thereafter

Have you ever had relationships, so strong, so powerful, and ever so meaningful, that after that special person, or people, left, parts of yourself left too? There are times when you can still feel them nearby, as if they are right there – you can almost touch them, but only, only, almost – fleetingly, across the sky, like a shooting star or a floating cloud. When we are alone, unexpectedly, we may start thinking about them for no reason at all and, we miss them so deeply, so much it hurts ever so painfully, it brings tears to our eyes and we wonder why – ? Just this topic alone, it brings up their memories so vividly. Sometimes it can be such happy moments, the sun shining, laughing, playing, running the streets and goofing off, a tender first kiss or a special word of support and, in another moment the memory can […]

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Breaking Up can be The Right Thing to do

Breaking Up can be The Right Thing to do

Sometimes a relationship needs to end In today’s world it seems we are obsessed with couples counseling, relationship solutions and even medication that will make a partner behave better for the needs of another. Don’t get me wrong, I am all for improving relationships and finding the middle of the road that may help two people get their spark back, and recover long lost reasons for being together in the first place. And yet, there could come a point when we realize it just isn’t meant to be and we lose valuable time not admitting this. I know, I have done it and I had a significant amount of emotional and mental investment, which I did not want to give up on. In the end it was the only solution that really, truly worked. To end it. It was the right decision, although one of the most painful and exhausting I have ever made. Today I […]

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ADHD and Narcissism

ADHD and Narcissism

  People with ADHD have enough problems without being compared to evil tyrants. There are few things which upset me more than when someone with ADHD is called narcissistic. I compare the term closer to a curse word more than anything else when used to describe someone with ADHD. Several rulers of the past who sought world domination are often described as the embodiment of narcissism. I agree with that, I go a step further and hazard to believe that they may have had narcissistic personality disorder, among other issues. We also tend to think of such rulers as evil, and why not, they utterly destroyed lives and ways of living. They deserved such terms; they earned them in various horrible, deceitful ways. Although narcissism at times seems an accurate description of some of our behaviors to the blind eye of the uninformed, the term tends to ignore the symptoms of, and our realities with, ADHD, and […]

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Who doesn’t want to fall in love forever?

Who doesn’t want to fall in love forever?

Just a fantasy? Who doesn’t want to fall in love forever? Who doesn’t want to meet that perfect person, that person who makes us feel whole, that person who makes us feel wonderful and beautiful? Who doesn’t want to meet that person, you know who I am talking about, that person who understands who we are inside, who understands our ways of doing things, who understands the whys, the how’s and the frustrations, the temptations and the never ending contemplations?! Who doesn’t? Who doesn’t want to meet that perfect, accepting person? Out there, in the word, somewhere, that person is there, looking too, for acceptance, understanding and compassion, sympathy and reliability. We believe that, we have to – if we don’t – what else is there? Nothing else seems to matter, but then… What is it that we are really looking for? What is that drive which continues us forth on our […]

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Impulsiveness meets Passion meets Infatuation meets Love?

Impulsiveness meets Passion meets Infatuation meets Love?

So Special – So Sweet. There comes a moment, a moment in time when you meet someone, someone so special; there is no other who can compare, no words can describe, but inside you, you know that this is the one – oh yes, sweet, delicious, luscious, YES! Every heartbeat exemplifies. This one, this oh, oh, so perfect one, who’s mere existence explains why the world exists, why the sun comes up and why the stars twinkle. This person smiles so brightly, has such kind words to say, wants to see you each and every day. Heaven is everywhere, all around you, within you. You can’t sleep, much less think of anything, or anyone, else. The world is new – there is finally reason to the madness and everything, everything is so gloriously clear, finally, at long last. Have you ever been so lucky? So blessed? To be loved for you, […]

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Sweet Destiny

Sweet Destiny

…reach for the stars and I hope you actually reach high enough to put one of them into your pocket… Should I dream? Should I aspire? Should I want for more? To be more? Should I lift myself up after falling? Should I try again and again? We have heroes, they inspire us, they motivate us and yet, only a fraction, a measly percentage of people will accomplish even a fraction of what their heroes have achieved and accomplished. The dream then, it would seem, is too big and unforgiving. The challenge perhaps then is to have a dream at all, for we know not how far we will go and along the way there will be many who tell us we are trying too hard, we want it too much, that we will only hurt ourselves, after all, we are setting ourselves up for failure. Remember, and read this well, only a very […]

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Gossip Boys

Gossip Boys

  Adriana was a very beautiful girl, so beautiful that she took my breath away from the very first moment I saw her. She was a very nice girl too and quite smart, she probably still is, but I haven’t seen or heard from her in over 2 decades. I was sitting at the back of the school bus, with a few friends, as we returned home. Adriana was a few rows up from me, facing my way. I wanted to meet her. She was the new kid in town and I thought nobody knew her yet. She seemed pleasant enough and always had such a nice, even comforting, smile on her face. She looked at me, she smiled and she turned her head down shyly. What did that mean? As we drove home I found myself continually looking in her direction and I just know I caught her looking at me […]

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