Motivational and inspirational writer, Bryan Hutchinson is the author of several books about life with ADHD including the highly acclaimed, best selling "One Boy′s Struggle: A Memoir" and the author of the hilarious eBook that went viral "10 Things I Hate about ADHD"

01 My Thoughts

Sex Love Marriage Affairs and ADHD

Sex Love Marriage Affairs and ADHD
on: May 25, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 35 Comments ...

Why does it seem that too many people with ADHD come to a point in their relationship that they seek an affair, or simply find themselves in the midst of overly fantasizing about having an affair? This doesn’t apply to everyone and yet, there seems to be a growing number of mid-aged ADDers fooling around while married or in a long term relationship. What gives? It seemed like a good relationship. Yes, it had some ups and downs, what relationship doesn’t? I have a theory about some affairs and people with ADHD. Actually, I have several theories, but in this post I am going to try to keep it to just one of them. Remember though, it’s just my theory and, like I said, it doesn’t cover every affair. This particular theory deals with late bloomers. Many of us with ADHD are late bloomers, including some that are early diagnosed […]

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Embracing Me and ADHD

Embracing Me and ADHD
on: May 15, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 17 Comments , , , , ...

I had a choice. I made that choice. I would embrace my ADHD or I would fight it. It may seem like an easy choice, but anyone who has ADHD can tell you, it’s not. Even so, it seems like it would be a clear yes or no. What’s the difference between fighting it and embracing it? For me, fighting ADHD means to search for a cure outside of one’s self – something to permanently solve the reality of ADHD symptoms. It seems to me, fighting ADHD in search of a cure is akin to searching for that magic answer which will cure the world of all evils.  Embracing ADHD means, at least to me, to look at the symptoms and say okay, you are a part of me and I will find a way to make you work for me and not against me. By doing this I can look upon therapy and other […]

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Are You Sure You Have ADHD? Revisited.

Are You Sure You Have ADHD? Revisited.
on: May 13, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 9 Comments ...

Most people who see me and are generally around me on a regular day, usually have no idea that I have ADHD (ADD). Or, for that matter, realize I am dealing with anything out of the ordinary. That is, unless they have read about me online, someone told them or read my book, I told them – stuff like that. It hasn’t always been that way.

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We can be worthy, we can be proud! Don’t let anyone tell you any different!

We can be worthy, we can be proud! Don’t let anyone tell you any different!
on: May 8, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 2 Comments , , , , ...

I write from a simple, but, powerful premise: We all have good within us and we all can improve! Together we can overcome our struggles and achieve our goals. I believe we all have something inside of us that drives us forward, something that inherently lets us know that tomorrow is worth it – we might not always be convinced of this, we might not always demonstrate it, but, I believe it is there, within each and every one of us! I know full well that we face difficulties and certain times can be extremely difficult. However, with proper treatment and support we can overcome. From experience, I can tell you that living in a perpetual belief that there is no hope and using our energy to explain why there is no hope, well, creates a hopeless situation for our self. Find me a person who tells you he can’t […]

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Acting Mature or Being Mature

Acting Mature or Being Mature
on: May 4, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 23 Comments , , , , ...

Acting mature and being mature are two different things. To me ‘acting’ mature, is usually, well, just an act. I meet a lot of people with ADHD, from all around the world, from every level of society, and most have something in common, which I think isn’t really touched on that much, or, enough: We tend to believe that we do not act mature enough. I’ve been there and I’ve done that too. In my opinion ADDers are far more mature than most people I meet at any level: We are concerned, sympathetic, empathetic and resourceful, have a fair amount of common sense and find ways to make it when the odds are against us! We can negotiate, bargain and find a way when no way is clear. Every ADDer I have met wants to improve them self, tend to admit, and take responsibility for, mistakes and seek assistance. I have yet to meet one of us who has […]

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Physically Punishing Children – Slap ’em?

Physically Punishing Children – Slap ’em?
on: May 2, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 12 Comments , , , , ...

Yesterday I was in a downtown Frankfurt shopping mall when I saw a small crying kid get slapped in the mouth by his mother in an effort to get him to stop crying. She hit him so hard and it was so sudden that Joan and I stared at each other as if we were in some kind of weird movie. Thankfully, this incident immediately got the attention of a nearby security guard too. Predictably, the kid started crying more and when it seemed as though the mother was ready to try again the security guard stepped up to her, they talked and she left the mall with her small child in a huff of indignation. It seems to me that there are parents out there who are confused as to how to get their children under reasonable control and instead lash out with physical punishment. If, like with this person I told […]

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Fear, Survival Skills and ADHD

Fear, Survival Skills and ADHD
on: April 30, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 0 Comments , , , , ...

Perhaps there was a time when certain fears protected us and even, yes, seemingly comforted us. We may never have realized the comfort of a certain fear and yet it is there because we are even more fearful of letting it go. Our fear can become our proverbial blanket of safety. When I was a kid growing up with undiagnosed ADD (ADHD inattentive) I had many fears that became like close, protective friends. These fears helped me stay alert for signs of trouble and by staying alert for signs of trouble I was better able to accomplish assignments, stay out of fights and make sure I was early for important things, such as, dinner. When punished, chastised, ridiculed and in general trouble often enough, we develop, quite naturally, survival skills which may (and usually do) involve FEAR. It is helpful at first, apparently life saving at times; however, the reality of such […]

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Updated Theme for ADDer World Blog

Updated Theme for ADDer World Blog
on: April 24, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 11 Comments , , , ...

Hey ya’ll! I have updated my blog’s theme. Did you notice? Please, for heaven’s sake, tell me you did! Lie to me if you have to! JK. I have been wanting to update my theme for quite a while and finally got around to doing it. I was going to hire out and find someone who could do this for me. Well, the prices folks were asking were just too high and some of the ideas sent my way I did not feel represented my self-image. Therefore, I took to updating the theme myself! Oh, boy, let me tell you that’s one heck of a frustrating, time consuming and ultimately rewarding task! The problem with having someone else create your theme, and represent the image about yourself, is that updating it becomes complicated and for that matter, when others put their hard work into it and design it for free, well, that sometimes, understandably, leads […]

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What About Susan Boyle? What is your hidden talent?

What About Susan Boyle? What is your hidden talent?
on: April 20, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 0 Comments , , , , ...

Is there anyone who has not watched the heartbreaking, heart inspiring and just brilliant Susan Boyle Video on youtube? OMG! Think about it, nearly 50, never been kissed and in a dress our grandmother’s, grandmother may have worn! Everything and I mean everything looked to be against her when she got on that stage! Nobody in the audience gave her a chance and even laughed at her, and, she stood there smiling and laughing with them. She knew something they didn’t… What about you? Do you have something within you that keeps you smiling, even though everyone else may be laughing? I think we all do. Here is the YOUTUBE video, if you have not seen it yet! Never give in, never give up! We have been talking about this on the ADDer World Social Network, you can join the conversation. ~Bryan

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To be Free of ADHD

To be Free of ADHD
on: April 18, 2009 by: Bryan Hutchinson 4 Comments , , , ...

Will inspiration set you free from ADHD? Will a motivational speech or a book set you free from ADHD? Will you ever be truly free of ADHD? What will set you free from ADHD? That’s not the point, really. To be free of ADHD is to stop trying to be free of it. Now that we’ve got that settled. What can you do with it? ~Bryan

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